How To Motivate Yourself?

[Bloomy]

@lostforgottensoul tell me all about those dark places - phew. Im also in a rut nowdays and I know Im in a bad circle so I really need to force to push my self through this. Im not happy the way things are and I know they can get better if I little by little do small changes. Thats actually a motivation for me.

Wish you all the best and take well care.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@lostforgottensoul I sleep in as late as I want on Sat. Usually that isn't very late at all, because on M-F I get up @4:00 am. (I'm not human until I've been up for several hours and had at least 3 cups of coffee.). Then it's push myself to clean my apartment, do laundry, and do shopping. I hate dirt, clutter and messes. I find with myself that if my apartment is a mess, then my anxiety is up and I berate myself for being lazy and messy. I grew up in a very clean home, so it's kind of been ingrained in me to keep my place clean and neat. Thus, I clean homes for a living!

So on Sat. I push myself again, so that on Sun I can stay in bed, rest watch TV and just chill.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I hate dirt, clutter and messes.

I grew up in a very clean home, so it's kind of been ingrained in me to keep my place clean and neat.

Me too on both accounts. My mom would have me doing all of the cleaning and outside lawn work and clean was written on me from very young and ive always kept a very clean home, until my accident when i literly couldnt and just over time my standards some how changed. Im not ok with it not being very clean and greatly belittle myself for it. I think a huge part of it is depression. My outside is now reflecting my inside and i do think a huge part of it staying that way is depression.

This standard change also went downhill as i was in therapy digging out my past so i think theres a connection there.

I sit here seeing things that need to be cleaned and just belittle myself that its dirty instead of just doing it.

But i need to time it or something because lets say i decide to wipe down the counters before bed, i'll see the front of the cabnets need whipped down, then scrubbed, then the oven that needs scrubbed, then the the floor needs to be swept and mopped, and then since its all connected i'll seeep and mop the whole house (minus the bedrooms) and its like 3 am and ive been cleaning for hours and then cant move as my pain is very high.

So i should find a way to time myself or break it all into several days.

Thanks @She Cat, you helped me see that the standards at which i kept my home has drastically changed over the last 8 years, and possibly why. I can work with the pain. I think the depression or reflecting my insides is the main issue and the main thing thats kept me from cleaning it.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@lostforgottensoul Yes, if you can't do it all, then taking breaks, or setting a time limit would help. But honestly, if you think it's warranted, I would have someone come in, throughly clean it ONCE, and then it would be easier for you to maintain it. Just a thought.....

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I would have someone come in, throughly clean it ONCE, and then it would be easier for you to maintain it. Just a thought.....

Yeah, its a good thought, one ive thought to do. Im too damn cheap and a penny pincher is what it is. I also learned the apartment complex will professionally cleaned the carpets once year for free. So yeah, paying someone once and then maintaining it is worth it.

I probably need to pay 2 people, one to clean and then one to organize. I used to be so damn organized. Theres youtube videos and pintrest pins on how to organize from the dollar store stuff. Very cheap ways to organize.

But anyway, yes, def worth the money!

 

[Deleted member 541]

@lostforgottensoul Well, it's a choice that you make. Either pay to have someone come in once and do it... Or do it yourself, be in pain and pay that way. Your choice!.. Me, I'd spend the $$. Well worth it!!!! Besides, I clean houses for a living, so I'm trying to keep people employed.. LOL!!!!!!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I'm trying to keep people employed..

Lol!

I realized walking into work, thinking about it, that im embarrased to have someone do it because of how bad it got but being so, i think may be a distoration as this is what they do for a living. My thought process is "what would they think of me?" Who cares? They dont know you. Its certianly more distorted thinking thats kept me from it then money. Its certianly worth the money.

Molly Maid is the big one around here. I'll give them a call and see how much they charge.

 

[VioletButterfly]

:hug: @lostforgottensoul :hug: - So sorry you are in this place.

I live life on the sliding scale of 1-20: what can I accomplish today. Some days, I have to be okay with being at a 2. I've come to a place of acceptance in that regard. When it comes to obligations, I just push through as best I can. Sheer will and a lot of prayer! Yesterday, I had to employ what Bloomy suggested about not having something lay undone throughout the week and it worked; I did move forward with accomplishing a few things just because.

Also nutrition is pretty key, especially when you have inflammation on board. I believe @Bloomy is dead on in that regard. I'm taking notes as I need to better in this regard.

Best to you and hope that you find some relief and some doable work-arounds that make it easier. Take care. VB

 

[Ronin]

How do you motivate yourself on off days where you dont technically have to do it?

I schedule them as Off & Relax & Chill And Fun & Detox From Stress days. They're 'off' days for a reason :sneaky:

And do the thing in small pieces. Shower not doable? Washing my face & hands & feet repeatedly. Can't move myself to exercise? Feet massage along with whatever's hurting at the time. Don't want to work? Make charts & drafts of things to use later. Behind on phone calls? Make email drafts of the same thing I need through. Cooking too much? Making lighter foods / using premade just-to-heat ones. Too depressed to get up? Have everything I need on hand, water / meds / bandages / knives and spoons / fruit / candybars / protein drinks / laptop / phone.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I like that @Ronin!

I certianly do need to break all of it into workable parts. I think i was frustrating myself as i was trying to do it all at once more overwhelming myself shutting myself down more, and getting more frustrated as i couldnt do as much and again shutting myself down more, and on goes the cycle.

I work so much better focused in general. Work days im focused on getting to work then doing my job etc. Weekends i dont have a focus and need one.

 

[Ronin]

Work days im focused on getting to work then doing my job etc. Weekends i dont have a focus and need one.

I'd add focus: You-care~

It's work, just of a different kind. The same taxing, at places.

 

[Recovery4Me]

The fact that you are threading on the subject, offers that you are on your way to pulling ahead!:tup: You are greiving, honey and it takes time. The seasons are changing, the wet and damp is effecting some of us a bit and it is natural for many to want to sugar up before hibernating winter.:roflmao:
I noticed it myself in the last few days and did some uptake on nutrition to compliment my sugar craving.;)

Motivation will come again. Build a little reasonable schedule like @Friday offers, fortified by the nutrition that @She Cat wisely gave- then just add what you desire or back out other parts, as you fine tune. There is often comfort or empowerment in creating strong self care. :hug::hug:

Take care and let me know how it goes.:) ps...thank you for sharing on your back injury. You are very brave.