How Would You Feel About Your Therapist Working With Perpetrators?

[Tinyflame]

How many victims fail or drop out because the anxiety of school is too much for them? How many have to work shitty jobs, barely able to feed themselves to pay off student loans that gave them no benefit? Just one more insurmountable obstacle to struggle past. For what? So they can break even?

lay awake terrified that this monster will pop up out of the shadows to hurt them again.

Thank you. :hug: You've understood so well, be it childhood & adulthood.

ETA, & mine was a lot less-worse than many peoples'.

 

[anonymous]

The concept of them being able to seek a therapist, so they can work out their issues and sleep comfortably at night. While their victims lay awake terrified that this monster will pop up out of the shadows to hurt them again.

As long as their lives in punishment are more comfortable than the free lives of the children they brutalised. I can't see that as anything but an insult to the victims.

I am paying for their therapy, with my taxes. While how many victims can't afford therapy, even on a sliding scale?

I think these points are probably a part of the reason it didn't sit well with me. I have had pretty much f*ck all help my whole life, and the help I'm getting now I'm having to pay for, and yeah, it does feel unfair that there are abusers who are possibly getting a lot more help than I have received.
In my case, my abuser died without any charges being brought against him, so didn't receive the kind of help and support we're talking about here, and I don't know that if there had been criminal charges brought against him whether I would have subsequently received the help that has been lacking in my life as a result. Who knows?

But yes. It does feel wrong that perpetrators might be getting help when so many victims are not.

I think 'How do you feel about perpetrators getting help?' might be another question, probably worthy of its own thread, although it is undeniably linked to this one too.

 

[Changing4Best]

I would hope that therapy might help such people recover and so I would support my therapist working with them. How else can we rid the world of pedophiles and rapists? I realize that they must be imprisoned first, of course, and they do get some kind of treatment while in prison, as far as I know and they are required to take drugs that suppress their sexual urges after release, [all this is in the USA]. I have heard all this anyway, from various sources anyway (I once lived in an Assisted Living Facility where some of them had been released to after their imprisonment was over, and also I write to prisoners as a pastime and one of them was an offender). Someone has to go into those prisons and give them their treatments and therapies too, and that would, I assume, be a therapist as well as a psychiatrist.