How's Your Day Been? Each Day is Different, So Make Your Mark Daily

[Deleted member 12723]

I could not get a hold of my daughter by phone, so I had to go over there and tell her that I will be at her house at eleven am. The movers are going to be there at twelve pm. It made me miss them all. My daughter loves me, but I think that she is confused by me moving out which is so painful for the both of us and the girls.

I accomplished so many things today. I am doing better than I was earlier. It is so painful this separation. After tomorrow I begin my apartment search fiercely. The next day I will take my resumes with me and try to get a waitress job. I will also apply at a sub sandwich place that is part time but better than nothing.

Time is running out on me and I cannot afford to keep staying in motels.

 

[ms spock]

I am struggling with dementia care. It is tough going and challenging. I need to refocus and do other stuff.

 

[Britt.f7]

I'm going to go clean my dad's house to get it ready for sale. This is my third day in a row that I will be out and about. Amazing. Tiring, but I am trying not to let it get to me today since I have so much to do. My son and my sister will be there.

 

[Ronin]

Nazi party finally decided to move their bs to some other place and a pigeon shat all over my balcony instead of flying in when I need that air support, I'm sick from laughing at the irony.

 

[Anrish]

Second day I called in sick. The pain in my ankles didn't get less during the night. It's bearable now...but I still don't feel quite well. Slept through most of the day. Went to the grocery story with my best friend. Will have to leave tomorrow, 2 hours drive to my work from here. I'm so glad when we will have moved in together.

 

[ms spock]

I have been sick.

Managing dementia care - looking at pacing, safety and acceptance surrounding dementia care. I am an excellent carer and I manage really well and provide stimulation, fun, disco dancing, social contact, good experiences, delicious food, humour and lots of attention to detail. Sometimes I get overwhelmed by the aggressive, angry and violent behaviours. I am managing well so far, today.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I took a shower and I went to my daughters house and the movers were already there. They packed up my boxes and took it to the storage and it was quick and cheap. I got my car washed, I called my hospital and changed my address with them. I called a few apartments but only got voicemail and tomorrow I am going to go out and try to get a waitress job. Too much going on at once. I am overwhelmed.

 

[Anrish]

I got up at 4 o'clock in the morning and drove 210 km to work...my office looked like a mess and I got the news that my current group leader will go to another position in August. I'm kind of sad because she did a great job. I survived work and got home...I didn't have much of a chance to sit down and relax. And I hurt myself accidentaly while practising...but I still feel determind. Kind of a strange day.

 

[Let It Be]

Ran into the sister of my former neighbor lady. I learned from her that my former neighbor lady is coming back to town in several weeks. I am so grateful for the heads-up information just in case she comes back to the neighborhood to visit some of her friends.

I also bought some new house plants that I found at the same time when I saw this sister as she was buying Spring flowers to plant outside.

 

[ms spock]

My day has been busy this morning.

I did the Mindfulness body scan from "The Mindful Way Through Depression." I did it twice - I did keep checking out at times but I was compassionate for myself and just noted "It is the nature of the mind to wander!" and kept going back to the practice.

So I am choosing to have a different day today. I will be a friend to myself today.

So I am focussing on the positives. I made B and Papa Bear pancakes this morning for breakfast. The carer that came and showered Papa Bear said to him that he was really spoilt and Papa Bear agreed and they have a happy conversation about that. I did Papa Bear's meds and got B to check them. B always does the meds. This is the first time I have ever done them. He is that tired. Yesterday I did breakfast and tea for Papa Bear - B had checked out. He is very tired.

I told B last night that he does a wonderful job with his father and that he has to give himself a break. I went through a mental list of all the things that he does so well, and I told him that I am so proud of him for being so amazingly dedicated. He said he couldn't do it without me, I said we are lucky to have the relationship and life together that we have. (Girlfriend grumbling rights not ceded, by the way.) I gave him lots of love and affection yesterday as he is so tired. I am working on my attitudes and my being present in this now.

It is less than two weeks before Papa Bear goes into respite care for a month. It is so good for him there! He has so many people that he talks to and interacts there with. He will be very well looked after and he will be safe as it is possible for him to be at this time. B needs a break. I need a break. So that is something I am looking forward to at this time.

Papa Bear is someone that has been so much nicer to me than my own mother and father. He is someone who really appreciates the food he gets, the company he has and what life has on offer as well. (Okay he complains and obsesses but that is the age group and also the disease!)

He comes out in the morning and says things like "Hello Cutepie!" or "Hello Sweetiepie!" These are the moments to focus on and not the overwhelm.

I have to tend to the overwhelm as otherwise I dissociate, space out, become not real or the world becomes not real or I eat or watch TV series obsessively - which also can be relaxation as well - so it is tricky.

Papa Bear has gone to day respite for the day - and he kissed me and hugged me and I kissed him and hugged him and I wished him a good day and he said sincerely "I wish you have a REALLY good day!"

So my day has been heartful so far today.

 

[jaccat]

Spent some quiet time this morning writing up my T session and browsing the Forum. Had work this afternoon. The boss gave me a challenge to fix a department that had had a big move done and was in a mess. It took me nearly my whole shift but fixing it was satisfying. Tired now though.

 

[Britt.f7]

Took my son to rent a bow tie. Called a local place to find out if they had any and they said they rented them. This is just in case his doesn't arrive in time. Better to be safe then sorry.

I am hungry but I will not eat.

I am tired from cleaning the day before. Still this is the fourth day in a row that I got out of the house. Very good.