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Nevermind with the vomit and sorry, just some rational explanation of what you're after would be nice. :tup:
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@Ghaith wardeh, as as survivor of the Syrian war, you have seen some of the worst hatred on earth comming from ISIS.
I can see why some of the stupid hatred online in other countries wishing death towards entire people groups is so deeply triggering. :( While mostly of it is foolish talk and trolling, I believe that it's absolutely not ok to wish death on all people in a religion.
I too have been in a group of people subjected to online wishes for death. I haven't been through a war, but it did frighten and scare me a bit at first too. Once I connected to safer places and people, the fear passed.
Do you have anything cold you can hold to help ground you out of these intrusive memories or flashbacks about what you have been through? If that doesn't work, use the search. At to search for "grounding techniques" and that might help.
There is too much hate in the world, but there is love and kindness too. Search for that.
I can see why some of the stupid hatred online in other countries wishing death towards entire people groups is so deeply triggering. :( While mostly of it is foolish talk and trolling, I believe that it's absolutely not ok to wish death on all people in a religion.
I too have been in a group of people subjected to online wishes for death. I haven't been through a war, but it did frighten and scare me a bit at first too. Once I connected to safer places and people, the fear passed.
Do you have anything cold you can hold to help ground you out of these intrusive memories or flashbacks about what you have been through? If that doesn't work, use the search. At to search for "grounding techniques" and that might help.
There is too much hate in the world, but there is love and kindness too. Search for that.
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Just needed to say this. Not everyone knows of back stories, I dont know yours and you dont know mine. Many here know mine but many more dont. I understand that you are in a triggered state and that makes your head swirl, or it does mine where i cant think or much express what i need to. But without at least enough information to get the general idea, we cant best support you and I, for one, want to support you.
I think, and i could be wrong as I often am, is what @coco9 might be trying to say.
I've never been in a bonfied war zone but i have been in a war zone. I have been forced to kill, made to watch killings, was a prisoner and tortured both severely physical and servely sexual. The things ihe things ive been forced to do would make most cover their mouths gasping. There isn't a way to quickly write it all out. But if you'd like my back story, just let me know.
Triggers that send me spinning generally turn out good as in the end i have much more self clarity and self awareness. During sucks quite a lot and if i can think to self soothe or distract, i will. If i can think to ground, I will. If i can think to come vent on here, i will. And if i cant think, i wont.
I am normally very self distructive when triggered though the more i try to self soothe, distract, post on here, the less and less i am triggered to the point i cant think. Just being here, constantly exposing me to possible triggering content is wonderful exposure therapy where im less and less triggered by the same things.
Anway, not sure if any of that is worth anything. I know that i personally hate the "poor you, come here and lay your head of my shoulder. There, there". That's just me, not saying thats what you are doing or that its bad. Just wanted to advise more then that, you know?
I think, and i could be wrong as I often am, is what @coco9 might be trying to say.
I've never been in a bonfied war zone but i have been in a war zone. I have been forced to kill, made to watch killings, was a prisoner and tortured both severely physical and servely sexual. The things ihe things ive been forced to do would make most cover their mouths gasping. There isn't a way to quickly write it all out. But if you'd like my back story, just let me know.
Triggers that send me spinning generally turn out good as in the end i have much more self clarity and self awareness. During sucks quite a lot and if i can think to self soothe or distract, i will. If i can think to ground, I will. If i can think to come vent on here, i will. And if i cant think, i wont.
I am normally very self distructive when triggered though the more i try to self soothe, distract, post on here, the less and less i am triggered to the point i cant think. Just being here, constantly exposing me to possible triggering content is wonderful exposure therapy where im less and less triggered by the same things.
Anway, not sure if any of that is worth anything. I know that i personally hate the "poor you, come here and lay your head of my shoulder. There, there". That's just me, not saying thats what you are doing or that its bad. Just wanted to advise more then that, you know?
joeylittle
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Honestly - not everyone is obligated to provide support to everyone. Clicking through to introduction posts is a good way to get context. We have these flags, which are good for indicating that the person writing may not be a native english speaker - so their use of language and grammar may be abrupt and/or hampered.
That's the second sentence in the OP. Triggered by hate speech. Either that's something that one can find supportive words for, or it's not.
I'm all in favor of asking people to clarify themselves. But in this case, I don't think it's actually all that complicated.
The point is: if you're not sure how to support, it's OK to just leave it alone, especially if others seem to be getting the gist of it.
joeylittle
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And, I am sorry, @Ghaith wardeh, that you are feeling so afraid. I don't have any good advice to offer, but I can say that I hear you, and that there is still good in the world, even though it often seems mostly bad.
The simple answer is - nowhere. You have to find peace in your own mind first. (Sounds stupid, I know. but it's true). you have to get to a point where, when you read hate speech like the comment you posted, you can ignore it and realize the person who wrote it is just a sick idiot. you need to get to a point in your own mind where reading comments like that doesn't send you into flashbacks of violence and atrocities. That's really all you can do.
There will always be stupid people writing hateful things -- they exist in every country. As do racist people, ignorant people, sexist people, etc. The only way to be free of them is to learn to dismiss them and focus on something else.
I think you would benefit from trying to make people in Norway understand the situation in Syria better. I realize there is a language barrier, but perhaps you could find a translator to help you better express your thoughts/experiences so that you could offer some sort of community talks in Norway. I think there must be decent people there who would like to know your story. Or you could just write about what you went through. I think that would help you deal with some of these issues.
@Ghaith wardeh I wonder if any of the universities in Norway might want to hear your story? I imagine there must be students or teachers researching the war in Syria who would like to hear about what you lived through. And I think it would be helpful to you as well, you might get a sense of relief by talking to someone about it and knowing that you are helping society better understand the war.
What you went through was clearly terrible and I can't imagine what you have to live with. But you can do good by making people aware of the situation and speaking out against hate speech. You have a very strong opinion on the situation on this forum, and you seem very passionate about it, so why not use your experience to make people realize how harmful hate speech is? You can start by just writing up your thoughts in your native language and keeping a blog about it. You can write about how hard is to adjust to a new culture, to be a refugee, how you're treated, etc. I'm sure many people would read it, and maybe you can find someone to help you translate it into English or Norwegian? The point is -- you have a voice, you should use it to call attention to serious issues. Those people writing hate speech used their own voices to spew negativity into the world. Use your voice to fight back against that.
What you went through was clearly terrible and I can't imagine what you have to live with. But you can do good by making people aware of the situation and speaking out against hate speech. You have a very strong opinion on the situation on this forum, and you seem very passionate about it, so why not use your experience to make people realize how harmful hate speech is? You can start by just writing up your thoughts in your native language and keeping a blog about it. You can write about how hard is to adjust to a new culture, to be a refugee, how you're treated, etc. I'm sure many people would read it, and maybe you can find someone to help you translate it into English or Norwegian? The point is -- you have a voice, you should use it to call attention to serious issues. Those people writing hate speech used their own voices to spew negativity into the world. Use your voice to fight back against that.
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