I Get Really Angry Seeing Others Disrespected

[xXDead_InsideXx]

I see people treating other people like dirt. More so than it use to with me. I can't stand it it's disguising and cruel, It's not just the fact that obviously treating someone like dirt means your a small, weak, pathetic person, but It just brings back memory's off when my classmates put me in a situation where I had no rights, through blackmailing and manipulation, when the bottom line was I just did not wanna get hurt and raped. And no matter how much I got hurt, they did not care, and it made them feel good, and in power. Those people were meant to be my friends and they only made me feel like I deserved that torture. This is why when I see someone being stupid like they were, I get aggro. Because All I see in them is people who have potential to be like my classmates.

One Example was my bf was on this site which was like the part off the net where all the jerks and idiots go, (yes loads off pointless internet fights *rolls eyes*) I was not going to start a pointless fight myself though over something that for most girls would not be a big deal. So I was just calm yet open and honest with him about it effecting my PTSD, and like he always does he understood. And gave me a hug. He has dealt with me long enough to know I try and deal with my issues the best I can, but it's not easy and we both know that.

I don't know how else to deal with this for future reference though...

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[onebravegirl]

Martin Luther King Jr once said that the only good reason to look down on another is if you are about to help them up.
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[anni]

OBG,

I never heard that one. It's quite lovely. Thank you!

Take care!

Anni

 

[TLight]

This kind of behavior is extremely triggering for me too.

Even teasing sets me off sometime.

But being in customer service for 25 years cause I had to and being treated so disrespectfully, people venting all over me, people just being jerks because they can and they feel so powerless within themselves they have to put others down, be critical to the point of trying to humiliate you, etc.........we'll just bad people, sad really.

I can't work anywhere where I have to stand there and listen to people complain or be irritated, or not liking what I have to say. A lot of people just treat others so terribly, especially if they feel like 'I'm paying for this so I can display bad behavior' attitude.

My BF's dad and brother are like this. We stay away from them for the most part. I even dissociate around them simply cause I know they are capable of this. Sometimes it's real hard for me.

I was triggered all those years......but I had to work. It just about literally killed me. I just didn't understand how other's could have jobs, want to live even. I didn't know what was wrong with me. The stress was unbearable.

When I found out I had PTSD, it all suddenly made sense. It was strange.

To this day........I harbor a deep hate of people like this. As part of my healing I'm trying to change this to feeling a feeling of how pathetic they are, how sad they are.......just so I don't get 'tied-up' with the anger.

It is only hurting me afterall.

But this is hard.

Now I dont' have to work in that arena. I don't have to hardly deal with people. I don't know if I could withstand it for long. But I'm working on this aspect of the triggering right now.

Mostly, I avoid the triggers. I must say I don't let people like this anywhere near my life now. When I sense they could be even capable of acting like this........I run.

 

[onebravegirl]

You can't fix stupid and you can't fix asshole either!:rofl:

 

[CafeAulait]

Disrespect! Oh, this is a big one for me. Whether it's directed at me or someone else, it gets my adrenaline flowing and I get very anxious. I've lived with this all my life. I wish I knew where it came from.

 

[anni]

Hi Cafe,

Me too! I become anxious AND shamed. No clue on the planet why, but I've found that if I browse around here long enough someone articulate usually manages to verbalize concepts which continually elude me.

It's SUCH a relief to just hear from folks who have the same exact reactions. Thank you! I just don't feel so d*m alone.

Take care!

Anni

 

[Nicky31]

Hi Dead inside

I have always had serious issues with this type of behaviour. My boyfriend and therapist both link mine to having to fight my corner from a young age. I don't go out looking for fights and now it's not just about me, but if anyone is unpleasant to someone else I find it really difficult and can't just let it go. I have to challenge it and have that discussion.

About 5 years ago I took a serving police officer to tribunal. I had witnessed his behaviour and comments to others over a few days. He'd been in the force for almost 30 years. At the tribunal I was asked

"if it concerned you, why did you leave it for 5 days before you took action?" I simply replied...

"Hang on a second, this man has been in the force for 3 decades... are you telling me he just started behaving like this in the past week? I think the question you need to be asking is why has no-one in the whole police force ever raised this before. Either all of your staff think this is acceptable behaviour or they just can't be bothered to challenge it. Either way you police force is stuffed".

The guy was dimissed on two counts of gross misconduct- racism and homophobia. :clap:

 

[Pam]

I think it is within the genome for human behavior to be cruel. That is the view that helps me continue on with my life without being overly concerned. Living within my chosen territory and being a contributing member of the group will help it be successful genetically. But if I find myself in a territory populated by cruelty, the best thing to do is for me to find another territory. Animals do it all the time and it is a good thing to do.