I Just Ended The Relationship With My Father

[Lady of Longbourn]

Read it.:poop: I guess I will have to get used to getting those kinds of emails from them for awhile.

Ignored it.

I have better things to do with my time and brain cells! :)

 

[Liam]

Hey. You should be really proud of yourself for being so brave. I think you sound really stable about this, even though internally you feel freaked. Just goes to show how strong you can be!
Please keep us updated on what happens.

 

[angel2write]

Wish I had the courage to do that.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

My T asked me today if I felt relief and less angry now, because we ( my father and I) have not really talked in about 3 months. I could honesty say yes to that question.

I feel so much lighter, my baggage is not so heavy. My heart is in less turmoil, I am more peaceful within myself and my home. My relationship with my husband is better and I am not as angry all the time.

It really helped letting go of that negative relationship. I feel closer to a happy and balanced me.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I was reading another thread and someone said " A parent should not be a burden on there children."

Just wanting to add it here for future reference.

 

[Reclusive]

Thanks for that, Ayesha. I need to remember that, too.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

It's been 7 months.

He emailed me last night. A "hi, how are you? Where are you living now? We think about you so much sweetie and wonder how you are."

I can imagine what he is telling his family..." Wellllll...I tried to get in touch with her, but she's not answering. " Evil daughter not answering is she? I had a enough backbone to be the only one in his family to say stop walking all the f*ck over me! Stupid Narcissistic asshole.

Uneasy, my skin is numb. It feels good to talk about it though.

When I said good bye to him the first time, in the back of my head I thought he would still try to keep tabs on me. He stalked me and threatened me all the time, I could see him hiring someone to find out where I was. And him justifying it to his family. Not sure about that theory but, to me, it didn't seem that far from him stalking me himself.

When I was in the hospital I told myself if he ever contacted me again I would file a restraining order.Not going to right now, but it's in the back of my head now. I have no intention of replying.

That felt good to talk about...I hope that made sense, I am a bit unfocused.

 

[BloomInWinter]

(((((Ayesha))))

Wishing I could give you a father who treasured you and would be safe and supportive and help you in life.

*Linking Arms*

 

[KP the nut]

(((Ayesha))), stay strong and do what is best for you. You deserve only good people in your life, people who value you for being you.

 

[ms spock]

I sent him an email, stating that his behavior towards me is not acceptable. I will not continue the relationship. Its not a healthy one. I also told him to seek professional help for the sake of having a healthy relationship with his remaining family.

You are very brave!

 

[ms spock]

I imagine the backlash to this will be harsh, me cutting him off. But its time. And its needed.

Take care of yourself.

I feel a little guilty, but mostly revived. Very revived, like a weight has been lifted. I owe him nothing, but I owe myself my happiness and to be able to live a healthy life. If doing that without him is what it takes to cut off that healthy branch he as become, then I will do it.

Good on you!

I am not sure how to feel right now. I always wanted a father, it was a consistent dream with me...that maybe one day he would love love me, like his other kids? Care for me the same? treat me like a human with feelings?

The perpetual longing for love and affection that never comes. It is so cruel. The problem is getting out the internalised neglect and abuse.

I feel happy and sad.

That is understandable.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

School is going good. Expect for the random flashes of my father telling me that " high school will only allow you to be in school until you are 21...then they kick you out, sweetie..." Or... he thought I would never be accepted to college.

asjdlajdoiweffiowjefk !!!

Oh, talking feels good.