I Need To Talk To Spouses Of PTSD Sufferers

[Jawn]

hopeful jenn,

I love him, but I can't fix him or get help for him.

That is so very true. It took me a while to realize that with my wife. All you can do is give him space, time, and be there for him when he does reach out to you.
Do take care of yourself and getting out of the house and around people is a good start. You might want to talk to a therapist yourself because you do not want
to lose track of yourself while trying to be there for him.

Jawn

 

[RatInaMaze]

Thank you for the support. I finally got to talk to him about the visit with the psychiatrist. He seemed to have a supportive and safe experience, which is really good for him. He also has told his command(National Guard) and they are being VERY supportive.

He is really trying to stay connected to the kids through this.

I also got a visit with my own therapist. I am not sure this one will work out, I may have to move on to one a little more experienced with PTSD.

 

[RatInaMaze]

Well, went home for lunch.

My small success is that HE asked me how my work was going. We had a short chat and he went to take a nap.

 

[RatInaMaze]

Well, Today was better.

It is still so hard to not get his hugs and kisses he gave so freely to me just a month ago. I keep praying for God to get me through one more day.

He did hug me back when I hugged him.

I will try to keep looking a the small successes.

 

[RatInaMaze]

Last night was a very long night. I had a really hard time sleeping. I ended up moving to the couch. I think I got less than 4 hours of sleep. Of course, this means that I am extremely tired and less patient. Today is our oldest daughter's birthday. She is 17. I am a bit angry that her birthday is over shadowed by his PTSD and my stress. I really hope we can put it aside for dinner tonight. She deserves it.