@Bird33 I believe you. Because I swear to you. Everything you’ve written is my experience. Forgive me for bringing this up, but you had a few sexual encounters. Am I correct? You see.. I want her so badly.. at least you’ve had her. Geeze I can’t believe I just wrote that. I am married and I’ve never been with a woman. But I’m not interested in women.. only her. Just her. THAT is why this makes me feel insane. I can’t trust my own feelings.@Valley i understand how you are feeling, I was in the exact same spot last year. I felt I couldn’t live without her but in reality looking back now I wasn’t living with her. I was always trying to make her happy, impress her do whatever she wanted. It was not me and made me feel worse about myself.
I couldn’t see that my therapist was a narcissist when I was in the relationship either. As soon as I started to separate it became very clear and now when I look back I can see all the signs like there is a spotlight focusing on it!
I understand the transference making you feel like a child! I felt the same way but to break that transference you have to break away completely. Trust me. I didn’t think I could do it and I didn’t think I would be able to survive if I did do it but I am in such a better place. I am back to myself. I am not obsessing about someone else.
My extherapist tried to hang on but then turned very mean. It was eye opening. I blocked her in everything including people we knew mutually. She did not like that. Best thing I ever did!
Where you in love with her?
Also.. is there a way we can speak privately on this forum or elsewhere?