I spoke with my abuser and didn't freeze.

[Fadeaway]

I actually handled my self well. My mind didn't go blank, and I didn't freeze.

 

[shimmerz]

Any idea what the secret recipe is Fadeaway?

Huge congratulations! That is a tough place to get to!

 

[Freida]

Yeah! Happy Dance!

 

[somerandomguy]

You are so brave!!!! ?

 

[Fadeaway]

Thank you and I guess the secret was anger?

 

[shimmerz]

Thank you and I guess the secret was anger?

So the freeze was covering anger you think?

And did something happen differently in this engagement that allowed you to tap into your anger? Have you been working on anger stuff. Just curious what allowed you to break into anger if it isn't too personal.

 

[Fadeaway]

Over the last several months I was in a shelter where I was confronted with triggers every damn day. I guess I had to choose between confronting a lot of my demons while I was there or be on the streets. I learned a lot about myself.

The place had more drama than highschool and I guess it is easier to learn to express anger to people in close quarters but are still for the most part strangers.

Being there was really tough but in a way, I guess it helped me as weird as it sounds. I am on the other side of that now and life is going well now in case anyone was wondering.

 

[Freida]

That is so good to hear!! ?

 

[hithere]

It's nice to read good news. I love hearing this, that you were brave and didn't freeze out that is awesome! So glad to hear you have a place now and things are going better.

 

[Abstract]

Wonderful news! Well done to you. I haven't had that experience with an old abuser but had it in a present day assualt and it felt truly life changing for me and came from masses of hard work. I can understand what you mean about being pushed to express you anger and boundaries by that situation. Maybe a little like being thrown in the deep end, digging deep and finding you have enough new skills to start breaking through old patterns. Yipee. Credit to you. Glad you are out of the shelter too.