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I just noticed a few things I worded incorrectly in my previous post. The first sentence in the second paragraph should read "he said there isn't one in the traditional sense" and the last sentence should read "it's just not the kind most people want".

@tlc just to clarify, he's not a vet. He suffers from cptsd due to childhood abuse.
 
I see that no one has posted here for a while. I would like to ask if I'm in a shut-out or beak up? After seeing my guy ( sufferer )for about six months, he moved in with me (late July). We were living like the odd couple because he likes disarray and I like organization, which although I wasn't super happy about it, I accepted it; I would actually try to help him. He's a full-time student and I was a full time employee until August 12. Looking back to the week after my lay off, I noticed how disconnected and uncaring he had become, but I wasn't aware of what to expect. I remember Wednesday, August 16, he sat at the table and explained that he wanted to break up because I was being too much for him and that he didn't need me to keep focusing on relationships which he said we moved too fast with in the beginning. I remember him enjoying every aspect of our relationship from the beginning up until August, and he reminded me that he would not be leaving this relationship due to my being a good catch. He left my home August 18, while I was at work during the day time after I thought he had went to school. He called me to see where I was and he was acting so weird on our call, but now I understand. He also accused me of cheating on him which really made my head spin. So, after about a few days, we decided to speak about what happened, and after my making a fool of myself on the phone with him about how things could definitely get better, he decides to text me with a break up due to our not being compatible ( head spin ). We had been compatible up until that point; I've always told him that there may be spats here and there but that doesn't mean throw in the towel. So, since then we have been in communication regularly ( not everyday) and I've spent a little time with him one afternoon recently; while together he said he missed me and loves me as I do him, and that there was no hate between us only love. I explained that I was entertaining relocation due to my losing my job one week, and losing him the following week. He said that he didn't want that to happen and that he needed me in his life. So my question is, what in the world does that sound like to you? A shut-out or a break up?
 
Well it sounds confusing as he'll, but does not sound like a shut out. He is communicating with you regularly, responding to you and telling you he loves you.

From what you've given in your post, it sounds like he got overwhelmed with the reality of living together and going through a difficult time (your layoff), and maybe felt like he can't do it. He seems confused and conflicted for sure, but also realistic because I think moving in together after six months is a bit soon.

Maybe you two need to start fresh and move more slowly this time.
 
Well it sounds confusing as he'll, but does not sound like a shut out. He is communicating with you regula...
@tlc i want to thank you for first acknowledging my post and responding. Secondly, I completely agree because I was discussing this with a friend earlier and we both agreed that it could have been too much for him to deal with my lay off. He and I decided that we need time to focus on more important things besides the relationship and that we should be friends and have a fresh start. He still wants the best for me with trying to make sure I'm ok and speaking with me to make sure I follow through with certain tasks. Being friends with him is ok, but how does one do that while still having such a great amount of love for a person? I'll just have to wait it out and make sure I'm consistent in his life.
 
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