Relationship I Thought I Would Have Heard From Him By Now...

[Sunshine71]

Today hubby took our son to school, went to see benefit people about getting a place to stay and them he was going to the gym.

I thought I would have heard from him by now - and he didn't pick up his phone earlier or just now.

I hate this. Why not simply let me know if all is OK or if there is an issue.

I am working hard to earn the money to keep our heads above water and he could well have needed his time out space and went for a drive.

What do I do?

I cant stop him from taking time out as I know he needs this - but I am sooo tired of feeling so anxious, of working all of the time, paying for everything and doing everything for my son too. I am wrung ragged.

He has run up debt again, spent the money we were awarded after the recent car accident and he really is finding it difficult to do anything. He enjoys having something to focus on but says its too much to build his business. Too stressful.

So I dont know what else to do - sit here continue working so I don't have to think about whats happening and then pick my son up from school where I will put on a happy face and say hi to the other mums.

What else can I do??

Sunshine xx

 

[Sunshine71]

Well hubby is sitting in the park.

He has had a busy morning/ afternoon sorting out trying to find housing and then applying for jobs.

I did lose my temper and say that he has a family that needs him and its just enough now.

I hung up, called back and after telling me what he has been doing he shouted I hate my life I hate it I hate it - and put down the phone again.

I cant do anymore. I dont know what to do - other than sit here and carry on bl@@dy working. :O(

 

[dms]

I'm Sorry Sunshine71!

 

[amethist]

Maybe its time you took a step back sunshine, and just looked after yourself and your son. You have enough on without worrying about him every minute of everyday.

Your husband is a grown man who seems to be wanting to make his own decisions, may not be the right one's in your mind, but they are his to make, right or wrong.

Sometime you just have to let them get on with it and fall down, after that the only way is back up.

 

[Sunshine71]

Thanks as always Amethist and thanks dms too.

We had a big talk when he calmed down and he said just what you have said Amethist - to think about our son and myself. Its hard when I know he is crumbling.

He has now gone to his office space - he called and said it is so quiet - next to a peaceful river and no people etc. He is going to stay there tonight for some space.

I dont mind if this helps him - if unconventional works then so be it - he says he loves us both - we are the most important things in his life and he just wants to see what can break the triggers as well as give us some space.

Come on universe - help my poor husband and the other sufferers in the world with PTSD.

Sunshine xxx