I'm Happy But At The Same Time I'm Not..

[Mariah]

I've been with the same guy for awhile.. I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life with anyone else. He's a year and a day younger than me but here lately I've been finding myself not as happy as I was when we first dated. We haven't had any fights or anything and there's nothing I should really be upset with.. His family likes me and he trusts me and I trust him, we have a good line of communication, and we have each other's Facebook passwords and I haven't found anything I should be worried about I'm just not as happy as I once was... Any help?!?

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Every relationship has it's ups and downs. None are always as intense as when they started. Things tend to wax and wane.

 

[Promicarus]

I don't know your age...but I have to wonder if this might be only your first or second relationship?

Because as Solara said...what you're describing is not only normal, it's more common than not. It's pretty incredibly rare for a relationship to remain as intense as it was in its initial stages

 

[Mariah]

No, I've had more then one or two relationships but I just didn't want to make a bold move that I would later regret. I know no relationship is easy or the feelings to stay same. I just needed a little advice on how to at least keep a strong relationship so no BIG problems are caused.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Is it PTSD related? That may give us a better idea of how to advise you.

 

[arfie]

My strongest suggestion is making room for the ebbs and flows of life. Trying to spend your entire life in romantic euphoria is about as practical as looking for answers at the bottom of a whiskey bottle.

It's okay if the first blush of romance mellows into a wine of fuller, richer body.

 

[franciemarnie]

Do you still have fun when you're with him? Do you look forward to spending time with him? Talking with him about whatever comes to mind and enjoying what he talks about or finding it interesting? Do you enjoy whatever romance there is?

Sometimes there is infatuation when we meet someone new and imagine this new person is so wonderful in so many incredible ways. And they may be wonderful, but in time we might find they may not be the one for us. When the physical thrill fades a little, as it can't help but fade somewhat, and you find that though they are super nice, there just isn't a sustaining rapport - the kind that keeps things good thru good times and bad, then you might start reevaluating. He may be great on paper, but it just doesn't quite work.

Maybe he's a thoughtful good person, but just not the one for you.