Hi everyone, I'm new and just joined. A little bit of a run down, me and my boyfriend are in our 20s and have a young toddler together.
We've been dating happily for several years up until the birth of our child, after which my boyfriend became extremely hostile towards everyone, including me. He frequently yelled at me, yelled at me when our child cried, woke me in the night to cook, clean and various other things for him and refused to allow me to sleep until it was done, prevented me and our child from getting medical care, threatened me with all kinds, hacked my social media accounts to send nasty messages to my friend, and cheated on me. I was left to care for our home, child, bills, everything. During this he didn't work, or look for work but he did play games and chat up girls all day every day, even when our child was sick in hospital.
This lasted for several months with various other things I didn't list, I contacted his family, friends, everyone really and got no help with him. In fact I was blamed for it all by everyone, family tried to diagnose me with things I don't have and friends called me crazy before cutting contact with me completely. He began starting fights with his friends and family. He cut his arms up and threatened suicide if I left.
Eventually he had a flashback and called a relative of his during it, who then took him to the hospital where he was diagnosed with PSTD.
I love my boyfriend, I really do, but I feel like I can't stay with someone who treats me the way he has, I struggle to get past what he's done and support him. I feel angry, angry that everyone including him allowed this to happen, just so angry, and I feel horrible for being angry.
I feel like it's not his fault, he was undignosed and unmediated. But then I also feel like that shouldn't excuse his behaviour.
I don't know how to deal with him from here? He stays in bed all day and still doesn't work or look for work, he doesn't eat, cook, clean, care for himself or our child. He doesn't help me (I'm disabled), he plays games none stop when he's not sleeping, doesn't see friends, or go out. It's so frustrating, I don't know how to cope with him and what he's done/doing.
We've been dating happily for several years up until the birth of our child, after which my boyfriend became extremely hostile towards everyone, including me. He frequently yelled at me, yelled at me when our child cried, woke me in the night to cook, clean and various other things for him and refused to allow me to sleep until it was done, prevented me and our child from getting medical care, threatened me with all kinds, hacked my social media accounts to send nasty messages to my friend, and cheated on me. I was left to care for our home, child, bills, everything. During this he didn't work, or look for work but he did play games and chat up girls all day every day, even when our child was sick in hospital.
This lasted for several months with various other things I didn't list, I contacted his family, friends, everyone really and got no help with him. In fact I was blamed for it all by everyone, family tried to diagnose me with things I don't have and friends called me crazy before cutting contact with me completely. He began starting fights with his friends and family. He cut his arms up and threatened suicide if I left.
Eventually he had a flashback and called a relative of his during it, who then took him to the hospital where he was diagnosed with PSTD.
I love my boyfriend, I really do, but I feel like I can't stay with someone who treats me the way he has, I struggle to get past what he's done and support him. I feel angry, angry that everyone including him allowed this to happen, just so angry, and I feel horrible for being angry.
I feel like it's not his fault, he was undignosed and unmediated. But then I also feel like that shouldn't excuse his behaviour.
I don't know how to deal with him from here? He stays in bed all day and still doesn't work or look for work, he doesn't eat, cook, clean, care for himself or our child. He doesn't help me (I'm disabled), he plays games none stop when he's not sleeping, doesn't see friends, or go out. It's so frustrating, I don't know how to cope with him and what he's done/doing.
