General Impact of Theft of Mountain Bikes

[amethist]

Our mountain bikes were stolon from our back garden last week. :mad:

This in itself is not such a big issue for me as luckily our insurance company is replacing them with new ones which will be delivered on Tuesday. :smile:

The impact of this on my husband is the biggest problem. It was a big shock to him as he noticed they were missing, but the worse thing is the fact that he had got them out of storage to strip them down, clean all the parts and then rebuild them and this is what has upset him most, because now he cannot do it.

This was going to be a project for him to do so he could keep himself busy over the next few week and then hopefully we could start riding them again. As we both need to get fit again due to the impact of too much comfort food like chocolate and ice cream over the last 2 years.

The effect on him has been to caused his depression to hit him hard. He understands that they were only bikes and that they are being replaced, but he had got his mind all set to service them in a big way and now he has been robbed as he put it of doing something that he could do himself. He was really looking forward to all that was involved and to the end result of riding them.

OK we can still ride the new ones but it will not be the same for him until he can get his mind in order from what has happened.

He has hidden how he has been effected by this for the last few days so that i could enjoy my day out with our granddaughter without worrying how he was coping at home with all this going on in his head. He only told me today how bad an event this had been for him after i had taken her home.

I know this is going to take a while for him to get back on a level. He has even missed a lot of the motorbike racing on TV today which is not like him at all.

I will now try and find him another project without it looking too obvious and see if i can get him to ride the new one as soon as we get them.

What else can life throw at us when everything seemed to be slowly getting better.

Amethist

 

[2quilt]

It's a violation to be the survivor or theft, especially when the police don't help.
I hope he gets the chance to talk it out, write it out, feel all his feelings and not stuff them inside.
I hope your new bikes are beautiful and ride comfortably.

 

[Nicolette]

This was going to be a project for him to do so he could keep himself busy over the next few week and then hopefully we could start riding them again.

I totally get this after having first hand experience of the remarkable difference having a 'project' can be for someone suffering from PTSD. Anthony is so much of a better person since he got away from the computer and started having things to do which he enjoys.

Amethist, I would try and help hubby find a replacement project.

 

[amethist]

Thanks Nicolette.

I am going to find him something else to do.

Unfortunately he will not do much in the garden as he hates gardening unless he is helping me, and he is hopeless at DIY and again does it to help me.

He is brilliant with engines or anything mechanical so it looks like i am going to have to find a cheap non running motorbike for him to fix up and sell on as i am sure this will kick start his motivation again.

I am determined to get him going somehow, but the look on his face when his happened was devastating for me also. I am fine now i have sorted the insurance and replacement side of it. But that is me being practical as usual, I'm good at that so that was the easy bit.

Another good thing is that i am getting a ladies bike instead of a man's, as i thought it would be easier as i am getting that bit older. You can imagine the comment's i got for that decision, too rude to post on here, you know the one, leg and over was the main comment and not being too old for that lol.

He tries bless him, very trying at times.

Amethist

 

[jefferylee]

Hey Amethist,

Have you considered finding him a volunteering opportunity? Maybe w/ a youth group where he could fix bikes for kids...that would be a win-win situation for both your hubby and for the kids.I have found doing volunteer work to be a very rewarding and satisfying way to meet some nice people and give back to your community at the same time...and you can give as much or as little time as you like.Happy trails to you both :)

 

[amethist]

Thanks for the idea but unfortunatly at the moment it takes all he has to go out shopping with me. meeting new people is hard for him too. so a buch of kids is ano no just now but maybe in time.

Amethist

 

[Ursa]

You can always buy a second hand bike for him to fix... them give it to somebody that does not have one, or even sell it again.

 

[amethist]

Thanks for the suggestion.


That's just what i have decided to do. I have asked a friend of his to help me find him a non running motorbike to fix up and sell on. So hopefully within the next week or so he will be able to get going again.

Amethist

 

[fin]

I did this with an old boyfriend- we fixed up an old Triumph and I just loved it, it taught me a lot also, not much I can remember now but some.

It was good fun also- especially when it started first time...it growled :) and knowing I played a part in making that happen was fantastic. It also did very much positively distract me at a time when I had been using alcohol as a major distraction prior.

Yay Amethist I am thrilled that you have found an alternative way round getting him going again.

~fin

 

[amethist]

Hi fin

we built our big bike from scratch as it came in bits. Frame, engine, wiring loom,wheels , all separate, someone he knew had stripped it down and left it in pieces. It's good when they start first time. It will be good to get dirty oil in finger nails again lol

Amethist.

 

[fin]

OK I am thinking a wiring loom is electrical perhaps...I was so not really allowed to touch anything like that on the triumph or the chop and I dont really remember hearing mention of a wiring loom at all I think. It was just over 20 years ago now.

But I did hear a lot how cute I was- especially after the bl**dy piston rings cut my hand up some (just a little)... I got even cuter then. I learnt how to make decent roll ups and also something about spark plugs and I got to design the custom artwork for the chop too. I enjoyed that time with him...we laughed a lot too.

Thankyou Amethist for helping me to remember that time.

Can I ask if you guys have been out on your new mountain bikes yet?

 

[amethist]

hi Fin

Sorry it taken so long to answer your quetions, yes wiring loom is electrical.

No we still not been out on new bikes yet, maybe next week when my knee back in order, got orders to rest it for a few days. My own fault for turning my leg without lifting my foot first. oh well be a while before i do that again.

Amethist