I have lived with my boyfriend and since I was the only one he ever opened up to about it, I found it easier to help him and take him to counseling. Now however, he moved back to Austin in March to set up a life for us there, 2 days after giving me an engagement ring. Once he got there his cup definitely overflowed and he broke everything off. He said he needed space. Yet he calls and texts every day as if everything is normal. Though if I ask about our future he goes off the deep end. This is the 4th year that I know off where this has happened to him in March so there's definitely a trigger for him and when I tried to explain that to him while I was visiting him a couple weeks ago, he broke down and told me what had happened to him in Marvh during one of his deployments. Now I'm moving there in 2 weeks, though we won't live together. He has said he does want us to date and go slowly (the same thing he said last year about this time) the issue I'm facing is that we are so close and compatible and our chemistry is amazing that I don't think it will be long before we are more than casually dating. He feels safer and more normal when he's with me.
My best advice is give him space if he needs it and be as patient as possible. He's had 2.5 months to work on him and I know he's feeling better and he tells me it's because I gave him hope thru all of this.
Hang in there if you know he's the one for you.
My best advice is give him space if he needs it and be as patient as possible. He's had 2.5 months to work on him and I know he's feeling better and he tells me it's because I gave him hope thru all of this.
Hang in there if you know he's the one for you.
