Is this true?

[Supervixn]

When is your appointment?

 

[Deleted member 45408]

end of the month,,,staying strong.lol

not really...so far

 

[Supervixn]

end of the month,,,staying strong.lol

I'm so happy to hear that! Keep on keeping on!!

 

[Deleted member 45408]

and I have a dr appointment wednsday..too far..plus I hate him...but hes closest around...and I suck driving in this weather out in the country

 

[mumstheword]

So you drive as well. Another indication that you are mentally competent.

I still don't drive because of all my years of damage inflicted on me, although I managed to keep all my children, at least in their childhood, and at least til my health gave out from long term abuse and I am still not, and never have been, in a position that anyone could get guardianship of me. I have been severely underweight and also overweight to the point of risk of diabetes and that is not a reason anyone could get control of me in guardianship, despite my ex being extremely controlling of me for over 20 years.

A guardianship involves your consent unless you are certifiably demented.
You are not definitely not suffering from dementia.

 

[joeylittle]

been struggling thinking someone can take me for adult guardianship and my husband says its only for mentally incompetent.

I've merged your new thread (this question) with your original thread, same question.
It might help you to re-read it, you got some good advice.

 

[Deleted member 45408]

I'm starting to belive it,,,but that story of nancy walsh really bugs me..because she was taken to court for her weight...in the end..yes she did concede but,,,,what if she would have lost??? that would b like treating her like a prisoner..

 

[joeylittle]

what if she would have lost??? that would b like treating her like a prisoner..

But this isn't your situation, at all, is it?

 

[Deleted member 45408]

no but I still see it as them taking her for 'weight' and so I feel if someone doesn't like the way I look they can say..take her to a center to fatten her up..or a treatment center to lose weight...and the judge says ok..

 

[joeylittle]

I feel if someone doesn't like the way I look they can say..take her to a center to fatten her up..or a treatment center to lose weight...and the judge says ok..

Ok, so recently, you wrote this:

idk what it is..just when I was younger I would get In trouble if I was too fat or too skinny....beaten....and it was every day..though no one can b fat one day skinny the next.i was also sexually abused for years 3 times a day...I felt no control over my body what so ever,,

That feeling - that you had no control over your body - that's likely existing as what would be called a negative core belief. "Other people control my body". Core beliefs are ideas, thoughts, concepts that we carry about ourselves. In a way, they are literally a part of who we are. Everyone has negative core beliefs, but for some people, they are rooted in trauma/abuse, and become so central to the identity of the survivor that they cannot conceive of how they might be wrong in those beliefs.

Cognitive distortions are the same as core beliefs in essence, but they are not foundational to the self. They are often informed by negative self-concepts, though not always. They are part of the symptom sets of many people with many different mental illnesses.

Reframing these negative beliefs, and distorted thoughts - it doesn't erase them instantly. And when the thought is tied to a core belief, it will be less of a way to stop the thought, more of a way to manage it. But this is all about changing the thought. Balancing the thought. So, lets remember this exchange you and I had.

You've got a reasonable plan, and you are not currently in any kind of medical danger due to your weight. Nor would you be, if you lost 10 pounds at the approximate rate of .5 to 1 pound a week. There's no evidence or reason to even suspect that you'd be in danger of losing your freedom as a result of this plan. Considering what I wrote, above...how much of you is still believing in your fear, vs how much of you can believe in the more balanced thought?

50/50..my family wont react well..because they think I'm skinny already...but I doubt courts would take it..i still kind of feel like they would say to a judge o she must b anorexic..but just trying not to overthink

Hey, 50/50 is great. So, when those thoughts come up, about the courts or your family - do your best to shift your mind to the more balanced thoughts: that your weight loss plan is reasonable, that you are not in any medical danger now nor would you be, and that there would be nothing to bring to a judge.

That part I bolded, that's what you've got to be doing, again, now.

It makes a ton of sense that these beliefs about lack of body autonomy would be coming up again, just following having had another child. In a lot of ways, the baby in your belly was running your life for the better part of a year. Knowing these connections (again), won't make the stuff go away. But it will help you shift the thoughts, and shifting thoughts will also shift feelings. That's just how it works.

 

[EveHarrington]

The truth is that the world just doesn’t give a damn. There aren’t people running around trying to take away others freedoms for not being perfect. Most people (99.99999999%) of those who are struggling with a disorder or self destructive tendencies, well they are left to their own devices to get better, or not get better. You’re not going to be thrown in the hospital unless you are a danger to yourself or other people, ie you are threatening to hurt others or you’re threatening to hurt yourself (or have hurt yourself). Being a few pounds underweight/overweight isn’t going to result in any sort of consequences.

It seems like you have MAJOR paranoia issues going on here. You really need the help of a professional.

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

I don't think you have anything to worry about, for a court to declare someone incompetent that have to be unable to take care of themselves in the worse, like bathing, eating, being non-verbal, unable to function basically requiring 24/7 supervision, and assistance with everything, but the hallmark requirement is not having the capacity to make decisions at all. I have seen someone who was declared this way, and I can tell you that you will never come close to what is required to be declared incompetent. If it were that easy, I would have been a long time ago, and i have an extensive history of hospitalizations (50+), thus lots of opportunity to be declared.