It's Not Weird, Right?

[fuzzypenguin]

Despite what happened to me, meaning it was committed by a man, I am more comfortable talking to guys about my problems than with women. Talking to the opposite gender just is easier regardless of the topic.

 

[Friday]

I like the way men think.

It's that horribly sexist & biased of me? Probably. It's not that I dislike women, but I've always been a tomboy. While I usually have a few female friends, and there are blokes Inwouldnt give the time of day to, the vast majority of my friends & colleagues have always been men.

 

[fuzzypenguin]

I feel like I get along better with men than women. Not always the case, but a thought

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Why would it be weird?

Its not some unwritten rule where you must hate the gender that traumatized you.

 

[mytai]

It's not weird if it is what works for you, and what you find helpful. There's no right or wrong way to work through your problems, no set guidelines or rules... sometimes I wish there was because that seems so much easier than trudging through it. It that's what you find works best for you, keep doing it! :) It's good that you know that about yourself.

 

[Changing4Best]

My 1st therapist was a man, 2nd was lesbian and 3rd is a woman, but she has the same exact Meyers Briggs type as me. I'm not sure how all this fits, but it does!

 

[mytai]

I'm confused here, how is lesbian a gender @SheilaKathy ?

 

[Changing4Best]

She was the male side of the equation in viewpoint and character. That is my interpretation anyway.

 

[Justmehere]

No, its not weird.

But even if it was weird, or uncommon, or different, maybe that's ok. It sounds like it is helpful for you and doesn't harm anyone else. It's a good thing to notice what helps.

 

[DogwoodTree]

I feel like I get along better with men than women. Not always the case, but a thought

Me too...problem is, people seem to assume I'm wanting to have an affair with a guy just because I want to be friends with men rather than women. Couldn't be further from the truth...all of that physical-intimacy-energy, what little I have, is completely reserved for my DH. But that seems to be the conclusion people jump to.

 

[Tanishq]

Same here fuzzypenguin, I find easier and comfortable to communicate with women rather than men. Nothing wrong in it.

 

[Kefira]

I have only ever been assaulted by men. One of my therapists had a spot on his intake evaluation for "your feelings about men" and "your feelings about women". He read the first one and said "why on earth are you seeing me if that's how you feel about men?" My response was "read what I wrote about women".

I think it's just personal preference and there's nothing wrong with it.