Meadowsweet
Diamond Member
Absolutely Abstract, and I think it's sites of real people like this one, that can help educate people to make choices (where they have a choice) in therapy.
I wanted to add though, that as a teenager, my reaction to childhood issues was to be rebelliousness - I stayed out, took a lot of drugs and had no respect for any adult, or what I saw as 'their' world. I was in that frame of mind when someone first suggested that some form of counseling might help.
The way I saw it, was that they thought there was something wrong about me, and just wanted to make me do what they wanted me to do. And my attitude towards therapy stayed like that for many years - I saw therapy as someone telling me that my whole self was 'wrong' and that I needed fixing. It played on my feelings of guilt and feeling that I really was a 'bad' person. So I kicked it away for years, and sought help when I really couldn't manage on my own any more.
I think it's worth noting, that it's not just about the right therapy, it's also about being in the right frame of mind to work with that therapy. My current therapist has often reminded me that she's not there to fix me, I'm there to fix me and I'm in control of doing that.
I wanted to add though, that as a teenager, my reaction to childhood issues was to be rebelliousness - I stayed out, took a lot of drugs and had no respect for any adult, or what I saw as 'their' world. I was in that frame of mind when someone first suggested that some form of counseling might help.
The way I saw it, was that they thought there was something wrong about me, and just wanted to make me do what they wanted me to do. And my attitude towards therapy stayed like that for many years - I saw therapy as someone telling me that my whole self was 'wrong' and that I needed fixing. It played on my feelings of guilt and feeling that I really was a 'bad' person. So I kicked it away for years, and sought help when I really couldn't manage on my own any more.
I think it's worth noting, that it's not just about the right therapy, it's also about being in the right frame of mind to work with that therapy. My current therapist has often reminded me that she's not there to fix me, I'm there to fix me and I'm in control of doing that.