I've Walked Out On Both Of My Jobs This Week

[Cherry_Bluebell]

I walked out of my main job wednesday, I was being overworked and my hardwork wasn't being recognised. My manager in the past had also accused me of things I hadn't done. I work in Tesco at night organising stock, deliveries, salad bar preparation and some of the salad and olives I deal with had lots of oil. So I've been trained on how to clean this oil and effectively. I use a specific chemical and I went to carry out this duty but they're was none of this chemical anywhere - not in the back, the deliveries or the kitchen where its supposed to be and I just flipped. I've been fed up with the way my manager has time to criticise me about stupid, unimportant things but doesn't focus on the important things like this. She's also phoned me up on holiday because she forgot to cover me and obviously wanted me to come in but I ignored her phone calls. Anyway after I flipped I burst out crying uncontrollably for around half an hour, then I went into the locker room, got my stuff and walked out of the building. I didn't inform the manager on duty or my manager later on that day. When I did phone up I phoned late afternoon and informed a different manager above her and she delivered some great news that the transfer I put in for had been successful. She then said she wasn't going to tell them I walked out and said just start on a clean slate, I was so luckly! This morning I walked to my 2nd job up the road and before I got close to the building I turned around and walked back home. Its a new job and there's a duty manager there who's a nasty bully. I've reported her and she confronted me after work the last time I was in. I defended myself but I believe now I need to put my mental health 1st and just walk away from these situations for the time being. It seems extreme and I've never done this before, but in a strange way I feel like I've freed myself

 

[Brokensoul88]

I've been there, I worked for sainsburys as a checkout team leader, everyday taking verbal blows from customers & managers. I cried so many times in that job and dispaired at how they would rely on people's kindness to cover shifts. They left me to deal with issues and as duty managers gave me no support, they just hid way from angry customers leaving me a target to abuse. I tried hard to stand apart from from the way other TLs & managers treated people, I treated my team well and for that I was criticised for not being tough enough on staff. Funny though how I still managed to get staff to work well without resorting to making them feel small! Leaving that hell hole was the best decision I ever made so good on you. Now time for you to find yourself a job you deserve. Good luck.

 

[Ice_Fire]

I walked out on my job in Morrisons for similar reasons. I was wrongfully accused of fiddling the till and effectively stealing £80. The ironic part? I was on holiday the week the money went missing! The duty manager was a terrible person and although the other checkout staff were nice enough, I just couldn't see the point of all the stress for a part-time job to make being at school that little bit more financially viable. It didn't make a whole lot of difference and leaving the job was the best decision ever made. I got to my shift, sat in the carpark and then thought 'nope, not doing this' and drove away again.

What is it with British supermarkets treating their staff so badly?!

 

[Cherry_Bluebell]

There seems to be a pattern here with these supermarkets then. I told my therapist about my jobs and she said they're the kind of jobs that attract incompetent people with no qualifications (she wasn't meaning all in those jobs, but I get what she was saying). I think supermarket jobs are a stepping stone or best as an additional student job. I wouldn't like to be in these types of jobs for the rest they seem brutal. I'm applying to go back to university next year but I need therapy in the mean time because I was raped in uni before. I still don't regret walking out on the 2nd job and I'm hoping the transfer is a much nicer place (it seems it)

 

[Brokensoul88]

I'm glad you are not letting your rape hold you back in going to uni again and bettering yourself. It shows very strong character and great determination for which you should be so proud.

 

[Cherry_Bluebell]

Brokensoul88 - thank you, its not easy though I'm terrified of going back but I have to do this if I want to improve my life

 

[lil_fighter]

Well done for getting the transfer :) that is really good news!

You did the right thing, there is no point in suffering in silence. The woman at your second job is just annoyed that you outted her for her behaviour, although she confronted you she knows full well that she is in the wrong. You have 100% done the right thing. Life is too short to have these extra stresses when you are trying to deal with the main ones. Sounds like you are doing really well :tup: It can only get better now and leaving both situations will help you so much in the long run.

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

Well done for going what you did, but plz also v aware if managers are treating u badly and u have to leave coz of their ignorance and lack of understanding to your needs regardless of wether u disclosed them or not u can take them for constructive dismissal ! I feel u have enough in ur plate tho without these added pressures it just I'm really passionate abt managers prejudging and making up story's to suit, regarding uni well fone jeez that's a massive step I'm not sure I kud do that, our Xmas lunch is in the grounds u was raped and I'm stressing everyday abt this date, cnt eat sleep or n e ting, my r said I need to visit the place before the Xmas do but I feel sick thinking about it x

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

Sorry not where you was raped but I was raped x was typing quick so error on my part , so sorry

 

[bell]

It's more than a little concerning to me that no one has asked the question "can you afford to do this?" Yes, it is very important to put your mental health first. However, if quitting both your jobs leads to zero income, then quitting one job may be a smarter plan.

I am all for cheerleading, but I am more so about practicality. In my opinion, blindly cheering someone on without knowing (or pointing out) that their actions are truly bettering their lives is not helping them only abetting them to the point they could become homeless or seriously in debt, thusly seriously worsening their situation, even more so than it was originally.

However, if your intention was that, I apologize. Maybe the poster came for that, but I cannot say "hurrah!" and further blow smoke up anyone's ass when in all reality, quitting both jobs without a backup plan could have actually made things worse instead of better.

If I've misunderstood and there is a backup plan, I apologize, but I'd hate to see this place become one where we cheer without also pointing out real-world consequences, especially when those consequences may make anyone sicker instead of stronger.

I hope the original poster did get their transfer, because the actions taken previously most likely put that transfer seriously at jeopardy, no matter if it was their fault or not.

 

[Cherry_Bluebell]

Namenotdiagnosis - do you think you're ready to do that?

 

[Cherry_Bluebell]

bell - you're right in one sense, but in another one job was overworking and constantly criticising my hardwork and another had a psycho bully in it. I think mental health over money and with a legit reason to leave constructively does give a person rights to claim benefits and get some kind of support from different places. The good news is, I got transferred and its a completely different and healthy atmosphere. The staff are a great, diverse and happy team and the work is of a reasonable level for my wage, time and role. I'm so glad I walked out on those jobs, I definitely don't regret it and feel a sense of empowerment