Just need support, depressed

[loui50]

I've become seriously depressed today. My grandparents are separating after 60 years of marriage. It is in my grandmother's best interest, but I'm taking it hard. I have SEVERE abandonment issues and this has set me off. Additionally, my sister has been admitted to ICU with a heart arrhythmia and they can't figure out what is going on.

I just need support. I just need to hear that someone hears me. I go to t in 3 days and I'm sure she will help me process this, but I need support now. I emailed t 3 days ago and she hasn't responded but we've been having an issue with her not getting my emails. She thinks it is her provider as I'm not the only one. I just need support and I don't know where else to ask.

 

[ladee]

We are here for you and we hear you... that is a very long time to be married and a constant in your life... tho you agree it is in your grandmothers best interest....Hopefully they are not abondoning you, just parting ways with each other....
And very sorry to hear about your sister..... hopefully they will find out what is wrong and are able to fix it....
You have a lot going on... so it's normal to go on overwhelm.... so now is the time for self care, taking time out for you.... to relax, take walks, swim, some kind of exercise.... a lot of distraction.... It's hard feeling powerless over things going on in our lives, but we are not powerless to not let the depression take us down...

Glad you reached out... you are not alone, and we do hear you.... sending gentle hugs if you accept.... take care of yourself...

 

[Deleted member 37085]

So sorry to hear about your grandparents seeking divorce after 60 years of marriage @loui50; and I do so understand what you are going through as I too have had to struggle throughout my immediate family's and in my personal life as well with the exasperating, isolating, and abandonment-issue causing divorce issue too.

I agree with @ladee that since you are experiencing serious depression today, then please try to be self-loving and please initiate some soothing self-care, and to be oh so gentle and loving to yourself with good TLC...warm bath (soaking in hot tub), hot drinks (hot chocolate, espresso, hot toddy, etc.) soothing music (relaxation ie. nature, symphonic, easy-listening, etc.), self-hugs, naps (with cuddle blanket or stuffed animal(s), and continue to share with your forum friends here @loui50.

I care...and am here too. I too am also sorry about your sister's medical health arrhythmia issues as well and hope that she is able to seek treatment and recover nicely and...please take good care of yourself. (Hugs!):hug:

 

[Teasel]

I hear you @loui50 :hug:
Those are big things happening, especially with abandonment issues. I have those too it's hard isn't it :hug:

 

[loui50]

Thank you everyone. It has been a really hard day. I appreciate the kind words and understanding. I handed the kids off to my dear husband and took some quiet time alone. I actually fell asleep even though that wasn't my intention. I need a good cry but cant seem to cry. Hubs is putting our son to bed then it is my turn for some cuddles!!

 

[Deleted member 37085]

Cuddles w/ your hubby, indeed @loui50. Cuddle...and sleep...well!:hug:

 

[ladee]

Many of our days start in pain, and those same days in in knowing you are loved and heard.... glad you got that nap.... sending hugs.

 

[Deleted member 40995]

hi, I hear you :hug: So sorry it's been so rough lately. Hope things go ok for your sister, hope she's alright:hug: Sounds like there have been a lot of rough things going on for you lately, I can relate, just hang on:hug: things will get better:hug:

 

[loui50]

Thank you everyone. I heard from my sister. She initially went to the hospital because she had had a migraine for 3 days. Apparently it made her vomit so much she became severely dehydrated and that affected her heart. If all continues to go well she will get to go home tomorrow. One less worry!!

 

[Deleted member 37085]

Thankfully about your sister...great news @loui50!

 

[Deleted member 541]

Hopefully everything will work out for everyone... it must be tough about your grandparents, but if it’s for the best, then thee isn’t much one can do. Try to be kind to yourself and I’m glad your sister is ok too... migraines suck!!!!

 

[Deleted member 40995]

That's good news! I hope her recovery goes well:hug: