Rose White
MyPTSD Pro
Watched this video by the same name and it was calling me out big time.
I think this is a big part of my challenges with intimacy and dating.
Limerence is kind of like a crush but way deeper—it’s the child part *sure* that they found the missing caregiver who will finally fill that hole of perfect love and acceptance.
I do still struggle with this even after finishing therapy. At least I can begin to see it now. I don’t really have any questions, just wanted to open a thread for discussion if this is something you are familiar with or becoming aware of. If you wanted to share your experiences or struggles with it.
I was the student who wanted to answer every single question in every single class from Kindergarten through college. I developed deep painful limerence toward teachers, such as the junior high teacher who showed interest in my suicidal ideation. I had never had that kind of emotional attention. I also fell deeply in limerence with a neighbor woman, wanted to be her lover, and I babysat for her kids, I had never had someone listen to me like that, delight in me like that. She ended up grooming me and preying on me. She was very immature, it turns out, but I was even more immature than her. I was emotionally a toddler desperately seeking nurturing. And it’s very uncomfortable to really look at those patterns play out in my life.
Looks like I’ve got more grief work to do. Bleh.
Anyway, here’s a thread to explore this topic, which apparently is super common for abused and neglected kids, so yay us.
Limerence is kind of like a crush but way deeper—it’s the child part *sure* that they found the missing caregiver who will finally fill that hole of perfect love and acceptance.
I do still struggle with this even after finishing therapy. At least I can begin to see it now. I don’t really have any questions, just wanted to open a thread for discussion if this is something you are familiar with or becoming aware of. If you wanted to share your experiences or struggles with it.
I was the student who wanted to answer every single question in every single class from Kindergarten through college. I developed deep painful limerence toward teachers, such as the junior high teacher who showed interest in my suicidal ideation. I had never had that kind of emotional attention. I also fell deeply in limerence with a neighbor woman, wanted to be her lover, and I babysat for her kids, I had never had someone listen to me like that, delight in me like that. She ended up grooming me and preying on me. She was very immature, it turns out, but I was even more immature than her. I was emotionally a toddler desperately seeking nurturing. And it’s very uncomfortable to really look at those patterns play out in my life.
Looks like I’ve got more grief work to do. Bleh.
Anyway, here’s a thread to explore this topic, which apparently is super common for abused and neglected kids, so yay us.