Relationship Looking For Reliable Resources Re Narcissistic Personality Disorder

[WhisperingUnicorn]

@joeylittle ... wow :-) :-(

"I think you are getting distracted by the narcissism. The real issue here is that your partner wants to elicit change in his abuser - and that is not possible. People only change when they want to, and are ready to."

I think you're right ....

 

[anthony]

@joeylittle hit it on the head. Your partner cannot reason with a true narcissist... not unless they're getting something from the conversation for their ego / gain. Any attempt to change them is futile, as the person will simply dismiss your partner, make it their personal mission to remove them from their life as a possible threat to their ego / objective, or manipulate your partner further by changing tactics and upping the abuse, basically.

You have to understand this simple aspect IF the person is a narcissist: they're only objective is to win whatever is put in front of them, at any cost.

Focusing on the narcissist won't do a thing, like I said, other than maybe make them up their anti against your partner to win if they feel threatened.