Managing Boundaries and Dealing with Disrespectful Behavior

Defaultxlove

Defaultxlove

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I am open to all responses and need the support. please dont come for me personally as Ive already dealt with myself as much as I could in this situation.

what is your understanding or perspective ...advice etc on the following:


something happens - I was mistreated / disrespected (5/10)

me: leaves "person" alone for several normal reasons (about a month passes)

person: the whole month - stays in contact (reached out first), but does not receive the same output from me repeatedly. (this was my personal boundary to guard my heart)

me: sad but stays strong

person: asks for a favor, I couldn't do it, - they said something that would hurt my feelings and they know that. then accuse me of not being happy for them, and not being able to overlook my emotions. (? I was half asleep) I said "maybe tomorrow" not "F off and dont ask me for favors." like??

me: knows "person" is partially out of their mind due to stress I know about but still wants boundaries peace and to be respected.

(also I love the Title suggestions! very helpful)

thanks<3
 
I might not be understanding. But what I'm getting is that there is a relationship with someone who did something that hurt you. They don't seem to understand that? And are making more demands (reasonable? not reasonable?) on you in terms of a favour.

I wonder a few things:
Who the person is and why continue with a relationship if they don't treat you the way you deserve/wish?
Whether you expressed how you felt when the event happened, and what their response was? (i.e. did they apologise -or just put it all on you - which makes me come back to the first point)
What makes you respond to them, as it seems like you don't want to?
Can you express to them that you need a break from them at the moment?

Sorry if I'm missing or misunderstanding.
 
Movingforward10 said:
They don't seem to understand that? And are making more demands (reasonable? not reasonable?) on you in terms of a favour.

I wonder a few things:
Who the person is and why continue with a relationship if they don't treat you the way you deserve/wish?
Whether you expressed how you felt when the event happened, and what their response was? (i.e. did they apologise -or just put it all on you - which makes me come back to the first point)
What makes you respond to them, as it seems like you don't want to?
Can you express to them that you need a break from them at the moment?
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thank you @Movingforward10 ! <3

yeah maybe they dont fully understand the depth of the hurt. what do I do with this? I just want to take space now. no communication about it at this point.

the person is a family friend. I don't like them at all right now but I know deep down, its likely we will cross paths. I can avoid this and have been for a month already.

I did express exactly how I felt because it was a simple - its not nice to behave this way - kinda thing.and they did seem to understand. their response was an apology. seemed to have a genuine shift.

I think i feel bad for them . I care what they are going through and I understand their personal issues and how the stressors are playing into it all
 
Defaultxlove said:
I think i feel bad for them . I care what they are going through and I understand their personal issues and how the stressors are playing into it all
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Is it like you feel terrible for them but you are mad at them for the way they reacted and guilty for being mad at them and "forcing" an apology when they are clearly hurting.
 
@Workingonit this person probably didnt force an apology...they are too stubborn haha.

but..yes..the other stuff. I feel bad for them..I am upset with them..not guilty...just like wth? settle down please. (to them)
 

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