I just made an appointment for our very first marriage counseling session through a local vet center. My husband has had untreated PTSD for about 5 years now and recently he's put all of the blame for the way he's feeling (emotionally detached, angry, resentful, numb) on our relationship. I can clearly see it's mostly depression and PTSD, but he doesn't think he has it. He thinks that since he doesn't have extreme symptoms that he doesn't need/deserve treatment. It makes me really sad. I'm not sure how he's going to react when I tell him we have an appointment...when he told me how he was feeling he said "I think we need counseling" but I know that he hates the idea of counseling. He knew I was looking into it about a month ago with this all came out, but I'm not sure if he realizes that I still am. I hope he takes it ok. I hope it doesn't close him off from me more. The appointment is a couple weeks away so maybe it will give him some time to digest the information.
Everything is so strange right now. He told me he doesn't feel attached to me and hasn't for 2 years and all of these other things, yet unless I bring up our marriage he pretty much acts like everything is normal. He gives me kisses and we laugh together, etc. But on the back of my mind is always is this real...or is he pretending? He's also made friends with a girl from school who I recently found out he's been texting quite a bit and even went for a run on the beach with. He lied to me about it initially but then it all came out. He said he would never cheat on me with her, but I already feel like he's having an emotional affair with her. So now I'm so insecure with our relationship, especially because lying was never a part of our marriage before.
Has anyone else gone through marriage counseling with their spouse who has combat PTSD and is in denial that the PTSD/depression is the reason for the wedge between you? I hope it helps...
Everything is so strange right now. He told me he doesn't feel attached to me and hasn't for 2 years and all of these other things, yet unless I bring up our marriage he pretty much acts like everything is normal. He gives me kisses and we laugh together, etc. But on the back of my mind is always is this real...or is he pretending? He's also made friends with a girl from school who I recently found out he's been texting quite a bit and even went for a run on the beach with. He lied to me about it initially but then it all came out. He said he would never cheat on me with her, but I already feel like he's having an emotional affair with her. So now I'm so insecure with our relationship, especially because lying was never a part of our marriage before.
Has anyone else gone through marriage counseling with their spouse who has combat PTSD and is in denial that the PTSD/depression is the reason for the wedge between you? I hope it helps...
