Mindfulness

[ms spock]

I don't understand non-judgmental.

The non judgmental practice is that you do the practice but you don't term your practice in either a good or bad way. So if you have a day and you mind is a bit all over the place you don't say/think it is a bad practice - you just be glad that you did the practice - no picking at yourself for doing it "wrong". The same with the practices when your mind is settled and you don't judge your mind being settled as good. It is what it is. There is no getting it right, there is just doing the practice, one that you have chosen to work on or practice. There is no beating yourself up or torturing yourself or second guessing yourself about your practice. You just sit and notice what is happening for you and you are aware and mindful of what is going on for yourself.

 

[ms spock]

http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/instant_mindfulness.html

@The Albatross gave me the link to this site.



I found the below one to really reach me @Ayesha.

http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/radical_acceptance2.html

I find this one most comforting. The website is interesting. I haven't read it all yet. Maybe there is something here that will interest you. If not, that is fine too - different things work for different people.

 

[Dendrite]

Yes, I fully endorse what Ms Spock just wrote.

I am applying this to my social tennis matches that can be quite competitive. Just being mindful, not seeking to win, not seeking to beat my opponent. Enjoying my opponents smile when they win etc.

Yesterday we had a chance to win a competitive match if I called my opponents serve out but when I reflected on it for a few seconds, the serve may have just caught the edge of the line, so I called it in. My partner was originally upset and my opponents (we play doubles) thanked me. Then after the match, my playing partner came up to me and said 'If that was me, I would have called that out but you are a nice guy, you called it as you saw it, that's fair enough.'

A few people have noticed my mindfulness at tennis and have asked why I accept losing so well. I say, sometimes I do, sometimes I don't but I want us all to enjoy the day. That's the most important thing to me.

 

[ms spock]

And my understanding of mindfulness is in its infancy, there is a lot out there and many, many good teachers and websites.

Compassion and non judgementalness for yourself can be most helpful in managing PTSD symptoms I think. Some days I do better than others with the non judgementalness and the practice of kindness.

 

[ms spock]

One thing I have found to be very helpful is from The Happiness Challenge by Shawn Archer. A group of us from the forum have done the challenge together. It consists of writing down three new things you are grateful a day, Focussing on a positive thing and writing a little bit about it, Exercise, Meditation and Random Acts of Kindness.

All of it is helpful and it does change the way you live the day if you do it daily. The random acts of kindness actually changes the way you relate to other people, because you are always looking out for random acts of kindness and it changes how people see you too. And it is a nice thing to do. And you meet up with other people on the look out to do random acts of kindness as well and that is rather nice.