Mum Daughter Husband Pressure

[Finchlet2]

Received a text from my mother this morning (she orchestrated much of the abuse I suffered as a child) panicked and deleted it without reading it. I had previously been instructed by both police and my husband not to do so as these texts could be used as prosecution evidence. Not that I believe it will ever really get that far as my sadistic mother portrays a such a perfect wealthy influential persona that she's even convinced the court to give her custody of my seven year old daughter on the basis that she is financially stable and i am not cos all kids need is money right? Lol. But this presents a problem in the sense I can't ignore my mother because she has my daughter. My husband is like mad pissed off at me that I deleted the text but it was fear and instinct and I had no control in that moment. He is insisting I text my mother back asking her to resend me the text but the police have advised me not to have contact with my mother and i should really inform them she made touch with me but I can't be arsed to follow police restrictions when they're doing f*ck all to help my daughter so maybe I should follow my husbands advice and ask her to resend me that text as she has my daughter so i really should hear what she has to say. Communicating with her makes my skin crawl though and i feel like I need to go scrub my whole body including "in there" with bleach. Any advice at this point would be gratefully received.

 

[dulcia]

Can you get a copy of your text record from your phone company? Maybe there's another way to get the text back without having to contact her.

 

[Friday]

Set your phone to forward all incoming texts to another number. A burner phone, or your husbands phone, or both. That way you can cheerfully delete all messages from your mum, but will have record of them (the burner), and anything important your husband can relay to you.

 

[Sandstone]

If you possibly can, follow the police advice. It is worth having their power on your side.

 

[Finchlet2]

Contacted sons sw; she recommended c.a.b. have list of family solicitors but its so freakin hard to get legal aid unless you have a court summons. Guess I've gotta keep shouting u ntill someone listens. Can't do this without a legal professionals help the law is so full of red tape and bullshit and so many clauses sometimes I think it should f*ck off to the north pole 364 days a year and only apply to civilians on Christmas day. The rest of the year we can use whatever means to make the necessary ends within the boundaries of our own conscience.