My Boyfriend Let Me Go, But I Know He Loves Me!

[MsPositive40]

:cry: Hi Everyone, I am new to this forum so please bare with me.

My boyfriend of 8 months just broke up with me 5 days ago. I am so sad, I know he loves me and I Adore him, but he thinks that He could never make me happy, and told me that I deserve to find a man that could give me all that I deserve...

He is the one that has PTSD, he has been working on himself for like almost 2 or 3 years now. He does the whole therapy thing and medication and he has come a long way from how he was 2 or 3 years ago. I know this because we do talk alot and he has told me the whole story. He was in the military for 24 years so you can just imagine!

Now my question to anyone that can give me an advice is "should I call him and try to make this work out and tell him that I want to commit myself to travelling this long road ahead of us with him! I have told him before that I could handle this, but at times I have complained about the lack of affection towards me, but after reading sooooo much and buying books about PTSD I'm understanding much better now, and I'm prepared to do this with him, I just need him to believe in me!!!! I LOVE THIS MAN SO MUCH...

I would appreciate any advice right now, We havent spoken for 5 days but today I sent him a music video to his e-mail, okay 2 music videos =)... just to remind him that I love him!
WHAT SHOULD I DO??????

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[Ron]

I think a break would do you both good. And during that break, things will either happen or will not happen. Love is a two way street. If it's 51 % for you and 49% for him it's not balanced is it? Take some time, think, and truly listen to your heart. But remember, you can't carry the relationship, only true love (that's equal between you both) can. Good luck, sincerely a guy that's been around the block.:) Ron !

 

[MsPositive40]

Thank you so much Ron, you are so right that love is a 2 way street but i do know that he loves me. And I also know that our love and affection will never be the same as for he has a mental disorder, But I truly honestly know that he does love me! I dont want to quit on this relationship but its like you said maybe we both do need a break to realize what we really want!

Again thanks Ron :)

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[pi314159]

Many of us with PTSD push away people who love us. I just pushed away my boyfriend. It's so hard being alone but I felt like no one could possibly understand me or help me.

It's wonderful you are trying so hard to support your boyfriend. I hope things work out for you. I also hope you are able to get the support you need on this forum.

 

[MsPositive40]

Thank you so much PI, I decided to give him his space, but every 2 or 3 days I will text him and let him know that I love him and that I am here for him! I miss him so much but I have alot of Faith he will come back to me!!!! Hope you are doing good, and Im sure your BF loves you very much as well too!!! lets stay STRONG:tup:

 

[pi314159]

He doesn't love me any more. He told me. I'm trying to be strong by myself!

This is not a fun time in my life.

It's great you are sending texts every few days. He's so lucky to have you :)