General My Heart Is Aching Right Now

[Tricie]

Wow... You said a lot with that sentence and it makes a lot of sense. Well I am going to continue being there for my friend; while I am receiving care for myself.
Thank you again Ladee.

 

[ladee]

Keep on keepin' on... that's what we do.... be good to yourself.

 

[Mytime]

I think your doing a great job supporting your friend and niece. I'm glad you reached out for help yourself. As far as your anger, is there a way of releasing it in a positive way, running, kick boxing ect. It's understandable to feel like crying and being angry. I would feel the same way. But please don't try and hold it in. Your friend and niece are probably feeling the same way. Sometimes it easyer to deal with the feeling when you know your not alone. Sending hugs to you all, they are very lucky to have you in their lives.

 

[Tricie]

Thank you Mytime for the kind words; yes my friend has told me that she is very greatful to have me as her sister and friend and to be here for her during her time of need.
She's doing a lot better today and her daughter is slowly going through the healing process one moment at a time.
I check on them two or three times a day. I am not angry today actually I was having a better day as well.
I felt like talking to my other friends over the phone and smiling while I was out and about. Also I don't cry when I think about what happened I think sooner than later I will be able to talk to my sister over the phone.
I want to thank all of you who have poured out kind words to me you are truly a special group!!
Hugggsss!!!

 

[BlueOrange]

Sounds like an awful experience.

It can be really frustrating that most people don't have a clue how to be supportive of people who have gone through a highly distressing / traumatic event. However, you seem to have found a number of supports (and yes, this place is awesome). Viewed from my comfortable, safe distance, you seem to have had a very normal reaction to a horrible event, followed by a recovery that is looking pretty good. It's a process, and it may feel at times as if you've lost some of the progress that you've made. But now that you know how to make progress, making that same progress a second time will hopefully be a bit easier.