Death My mother died this morning

[Lionheart]

Thank you @A little lost , thank you so much for sharing your experience and insight....

My mother brought so much to my life and blessed so many people with her quick wit and sense of humor. She really was tough as nails but, she was also my soft spot to land. My heart is breaking but I know she would not want me to grieve to the point of being sick and depressed...., she would want me to remember and celebrate her life and so I am trying to do as she wished.

Mom lived a good long life and was a good woman and also a good mother. She died peacefully in her sleep and we got 4 extra months with her from the time in December when she almost died. There is so much to celebrate and be grateful for and I know I was lucky to have such a wonderful blessing in my life.

Still, it hurts not to have her physically present. I will light a candle for her and talk to her as if she were right beside me and who knows, perhaps she will be my angel watching over me from above....I certainly like to think so.

She will be greatly missed and certainly well loved by her children / family.

 

[Deleted member 541]

:hug:@Lionheart777 Although it's only been a few days and I know that your grief is deep and raw, I'm hoping that you and your sister are doing a bit better.

From your words and description of your mom, you had an awesome mom. That's something to hold dear. Lion, please just remember to take care of yourself and let the grief take whatever time it needs.

We are here for you!!!:hug::hug:

 

[Iamsensative]

So sorry for you loss. Be gentle eith yourself. I am saying prayers for you and your Mom. Sending hugs..

 

[scout86]

So sorry for your loss! She sounds like a wonderful mother. I'm glad the two of you had that kind of relationship. I suspect she lives on in you, and everyone else who loved her and learned from her.

Take care of yourself!

 

[Lionheart]

Thank you @She Cat , @Iamsensative , and @scout86 .

My sister is taking the loss pretty hard.

I am beginning the healing process, letting go, and holding on tight to the happy memories...

Mom chose cremation; We have been looking at urns for mom's ashes and I think my sister will feel a little better when we get mom's ashes back and have her here at home.

I think we have chosen a silver urn with old English engraving. It is a beautiful urn. I think the urn is a fitting tribute to my mother. We are not planning on scattering her ashes at this point .

Mom was a good and loving mother, she will be missed and loved for the remainder of our lives.

I don't know what else to say except that I am truly grateful for the support and compassionate responses.

Lionheart

 

[gealach]

Thank you @A little lost , thank you so much for sharing your experience and ins...

What a lovely tribute to your mom, she sounds like a wonderful Lady. I hope you & your sister are finding comfort from your grief in the happy memories of her.

 

[ladee]

@Lionheart777 , something I want to share with you, about my mom... she loved Cardinals, they were her favorite bird... and I noticed after she died... that when I was missing her so, I could hardly breathe, I would see a Cardinal.... and smile... it happens to this day.... if I am having a hard time in life... I will see a Cardinal... even in winter.... and to me, it is her way of sending me the message it's going to be ok..... I hope something like this happens for you... a sign of sorts.... that the love they gave us, and in my moms case, she was pretty broken herself, but I knew she cared about me...
I feel I see the Cardinals, because it is easier for her to show love without the bondage of her life.... Doesn't matter really does it. I choose to see it this way... it brings me peace... and I feel loved and not forgotten....

Sending you gentle hugs.... you are very loved ya know... if you hurt, we hurt.... gentle love and understanding.

 

[Lionheart]

The day my mom passed I saw a cardinal.

I am having a pretty rough time physically due to stress causing CFS/ME symptoms to flare. I feel very weak although I am not depressed. I am however rather sad.

I'm grateful for the support and hugs.

will write more when I am able.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I'm so very sorry @Lionheart777! I'm here for you! :hug:s!

 

[Lionheart]

I wanted to check in:

I am healing slowly but steadily, a little each day. I am sleeping a lot and am physically weak, but mentally / emotionally I know I am blessed / loved .

I am ever so grateful for all of the kind thoughts, prayers and well-wishes...

Sending out hugs for all,
Lion

 

[Deleted member 541]

Hang in there @Lionheart777 I know that you need to rest to heal, but beware that the sleeping isn't actually depression settling in..... :hug: Take care!!,

 

[Snowflake]

Early this morning, and after 80 years, my mom's body released her spirit. I am already having PTSD...

My mom died on April 28th too.