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Name that distorted cognition (thought/perception)

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I have been jumping to conclusions of what people might thinking and they are 1000kms away - they are probably not thinking of me at all.

I have also been doing emotional reasoning - that as I feel it, it must be true.

I have been thinking that if I feel my feelings that I will die. This is of course, not true but it feels correct. This is also emotional reasoning and it is also magnification.
 
I think when I read the David Burns book I had 80-90% distorted thoughts, perceptions and feelings. After reading that book and realising just how ridiculous some of my thinking was - well about 30-40% of that distorted thinking just went (well I did do some work on it, but it left more easily than I could have ever imagined) because I could so easily challenge it. I was contained and understood in a way I am not sure of but it worked to me.

So now I am having about 50-60% distorted cognitions - and it is really hard to get on top of them. But I am noticing more and more. Some of these distorted cognitions are tenacious little buggers! So I need to meet my own needs for my self to let go of some of these thinking patterns.

I have a big thing about saving the world, about making people happy so I won't be viciously attacked, but that was then and in this now I don't have that - but emotional reasoning means I think those thoughts, perceptions and feelings are real and distorted. I am committed to working on this. It will take time but I will get there.
 
Mind Reading - making negative assumptions about others thoughts when in reality it's impossible for you to know.

This is a big one for me and can cause a lot of depression and trigger withdrawing behaviors.

"She thinks that I'm crazy" - unless those precise words were used to your face, it has no basis in fact.

"That lady tried to cut me off because she was p'd off that I was driving too slow." Ummm, I have no clue what she's thinking or if she even was!

"They don't call me because I make them uncomfortable (or they're mad at me) " I have no idea what "they" think, the only fact I have is the absence of a phone call, not a reason behind it.
 
I am struggling with and engaging with magical thinking. I am slipping into rumination quite a bit as well. I am also over generalising. I am doing a few of them at the moment.
 
The 20 primary cognitive distortions (according to Vulcan Logic) are:
  1. All or nothing thinking -- You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
  2. Over-generalization -- You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
  3. Mental filter -- You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water.
  4. Disqualifying the positive -- You reject positive experiences by insisting they "don't count" for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
  5. Jumping to conclusions -- You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. (Involves mind-reading and fortune-telling.)
  6. Magnification and minimization -- You exaggerate the importance of things, or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny.
  7. Emotional reasoning -- You assume that your emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are, as in "I feel it, therefore it must be true."
  8. Should statements -- You try to motivate yourself with "should" and "should not," as if you have to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything.
  9. Labeling and mislabeling -- This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself.
  10. Personalization -- You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which, in fact, you were not primarily responsible for.
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No 11. Magical thinking is a distorted cognition as well. It is a big one for Developmental Trauma/Complex Trauma from childhood abuse. Well it is for me anyway.

12. Another form of Magical thinking as an adult simply fills up so much time. It is an avoidance strategy. It is not living presently, but finding a way to numb feelings through fantasies of what life could be.

13. You have to make everyone happy, or you will die or be punished or tortured.

14. It is all your fault - you are to blame for the problems in your family - even when you were one years old!

15. Hopelessness (Burns, p88) when you are so depressed you get so frozen in the pain of the moment moment that you forget entirely that you ever felt better in the past and find it inconceivable that you might feel better in the future.

16. Helplessness (also p88) You can't possibly do anything that will make yourself feel any better because you are convinced that your moods are caused by factors outside your control, such as fate, hormone cycles, dietary factors, luck, and other people's evaluations of you.

17. Overwhelming your self (also p88)There are several ways that you may overwhelm yourself into doing nothing. You may magnify a task to the degree that it seems impossible to tackle. You may assume you must do everything at once instead of breaking each job down into small, discrete, manageable units which you can complete one step at a time. You might also inadvertently distract yourself from the task at hand by obsessing about endless other things you haven't gotten around to doing yet. To illustrate how irrational this is, imagine every time you sit down to eat, you thought about all the food you have to eat durig your life time. Just imagine for a moment all that food piled up in front of you - kilograms and kilograms of food - and you thought each mean you have to eat all this food over a life time so you just stop eating because you feel like you will never get it done!

18. Distorted cognition: Binge thinking is helpful. (Thanks for that term @Spiderallis! Yes I do believe this. Of course it is not. But I didn't learn regulated thought patterns as a child. I was mostly dissociated, derealised and depersonalised. It is a close cousin with Rumination! Oh How I Love Rumination - NOT!

19. Distorted cognition: Rumination will help you work things out - well no, it doesn't but I didn't get rumination was a thing until 2013. People actually know that rumination doesn't help and makes your decision making processes much worse. I missed that memo until 2013.

20. Distorted cognition: That I must talk incessantly to keep the space filled up so I can manage to stay alive. This is not true. No one will kill me for not entertaining or Wowing them. So I have this distorted cognition that I have to talk all the time to keep myself - to stop the poison from getting through, to stop the jabs and the horrible attacks from getting inside. I don't have to babble to keep myself safe. No one is going for me right now. It is okay. I don't have to entertain or win people over so they don't kill me. No one is going to kill me or wants to kill me right now. I don't have to talk all the time to feel up the space to be safe. I am safe. It is okay.

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So the magical thinking of how life could be - I probably spend more time on that each day than anything else at times.

Rumination - if it worked I would have been better in my early teens. Yep not helpful or productive.
 
***mindfully disco dances over to @DharmaGirl, matches her getting down and boogie style***

You may need your own thread and that is perfectly fine @DharmaGirl, but if you wanted to discuss your distorted perceptions, thoughts and feelings and ideas here you are most welcome. I started this thread so as many members as possible could get access to the distorted cognition idea. And so it could be a type of a fun game in the end. You know "Oops! I did these distorted cognitions today!" type of thing. It might work for some people and not for other members. Just a thought.
 
I doubt my self so much, and I have to go that even my mistakes are right - they are my mistakes. Therefore even my mistakes (which I choose to make) are okay. And sometimes I will get things right so it will all pan out. So underpinning this distorted thinking is all or nothing thinking, emotional reasoning and magical thinking (where if I make no decisions I cannot get it wrong).
 
I realise that my anxiety only indicates that I am thinking within distorted cognitions and believing it.

I am doing all or nothing thinking.
I am doing magnification.
I am doing emotional reasoning.
I am doing jumping to conclusions.
 
My feelings of overwhelm indicates that I am slipping into helplessness and hopelessness.

My thinking that brings on feelings of hopelessness and helplessness is magnification (I am blowing things out of perspective), all or nothing thinking (I must be perfect or I will be punished and destroyed - nothing I ever do will be good enough), emotional reasoning (I feel it will be too hard and so therefore it is, so I don't even start by doing one thing, and of course as the weeks go by the task does build up to be completely overwhelming.)

Because I cannot do 30 hours of work in one hour.

No one can do in an hour a task that takes 30 hours all up in terms of work.

Lots of magical thinking in there as well.

This is a problem with the way I manage time and energy as this sets myself up for failure.

The way I engage in dissociation, derealisation and depersonalisation means I make my life much, much, much harder than it needs to be.

So I have set myself up for a lot of stress, failure, shame, guilt and emotional distress - and I engage within this with confirmation bias which becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because nothing that I do that requires 30 hours worth of work can be done in one hour! Therefore I reaffirm, reinforce the neural pathways in my head and "prove" to myself (through more confirmation bias and other distorted cognitions) that nothing I could ever do will ever be good enough. (Yay me for finally working this out a bit more!)

But yes I am currently up shit creek due to not managing my emotions, time or resources well, whilst simultaneously in other areas doing really well and being much improved.

To be fair to myself I have dealt with a rugged situation in my living situation - an attempted homicide is not easy to live near. I have prioritised self care in terms mindfulness, exercise, therapy, seeing friends, keeping social activities up, keeping in contact with people, spending quality time with my sister and her partner and doing things to keep myself going. So that all needs to be in place to live a life, I just need to add "not setting myself up for failure" as part of my developing repertoire.

So I have set myself up for a lot of stress, failure, shame, guilt and emotional distress - and I engage within this with confirmation bias which becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because nothing that I do that requires 30 hours worth of work can be done in one hour!
 
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