Name that distorted cognition (thought/perception)

[ms spock]

Sry this got too long

That is great! I understand what you mean now. I do this as well!

 

[ms spock]

I have been doing all or nothing thinking I keep seeing myself as a total failure.
I have been doing over-generalization as well I am seeing individual events as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
I have been doing mental filter so I pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that my vision of all reality becomes darkened, I have sometimes being doing about my relationship at times.
I have been doing disqualifying the positive. I don't focus on my achievements in my management and recovery from PTSD.
I have been jumping to conclusions that people don't like me and I don't belong. I do this one on a regular basis. I make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support my conclusion.
I have been engaging in magnification and minimization I both exaggerate the importance of things, or I inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny. This is something that happened a lot in my childhood.
I have been engaging in emotional reasoning, thinking that because I feel something that it is true but that is not true. Feelings are not facts.
I do a fair bit of shoulding, I feel though I must should myself, as I get so little done.
I do attach negative labels to myself, less than I did. So I do do labeling and mislabeling.

 

[joeylittle]

I have been doing all or nothing thinking I keep seeing myself as a total failure.

I do attach negative labels to myself, less than I did. So I do do labeling and mislabeling.

An honest question - truly not meant to be a provocation.

Do you think it's possible that circling back to these distortions and attaching them to yourself is a way of self-labeling and is there an implication - for you, when you write them - that you have failed at something?

I'm asking because I realized the other day that I had allowed some naming of things - what I thought was good cognitive practice - to turn into a way to beat myself up somewhat. And when I read a big post like this one, with a large list of distortions attached, it makes me wonder if it's therapeutically useful for you to do this, or if making the post is a way of self-castigation?

If that's the case, it could be useful to try and isolate just one distortion that came up over the course of a day, write more specifically about the incident, and then try and write a more balanced thought. Maybe?

(I also might be projecting tone into what you are posting, though - so that's why I'm asking. I could be way off-base)

 

[ms spock]

That is an interesting question @joeylittle. I will think on that.

 

[ms spock]

Do you think it's possible that circling back to these distortions and attaching them to yourself is a way of self-labeling and is there an implication - for you, when you write them - that you have failed at something?

Yes, didn't realise it, but yes I am doing this.

I'm asking because I realized the other day that I had allowed some naming of things - what I thought was good cognitive practice - to turn into a way to beat myself up somewhat. And when I read a big post like this one, with a large list of distortions attached, it makes me wonder if it's therapeutically useful for you to do this, or if making the post is a way of self-castigation?

I didn't realise it but I was doing that.

If that's the case, it could be useful to try and isolate just one distortion that came up over the course of a day, write more specifically about the incident, and then try and write a more balanced thought. Maybe?

Yes that is a strategy that I will consider.

 

[ms spock]

I have been doing mental filter so I pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that my vision of all reality becomes darkened, I ruminate on how bad I am. I pick at myself. I am harsh towards myself. I see myself in a negative light, despite all the good stuff that I am doing. I have improved tremendously, yet it is hard for me to let this go.

 

[ms spock]

I have been doing mental filter so I pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that my vision of all reality becomes darkened, I ruminate on how bad I am. I pick at myself. I am harsh towards myself. I see myself in a negative light, despite all the good stuff that I am doing.

Still doing this! I am struggling with this.

 

[Tinyflame]

@Living in the 70s I would have to search for it, but someone on here said there is Compassion-Based-Therapy (or something similar), for people wherein CBT poses problems because they are too self-critical.

 

[Chiqui]

I have been engaging in magnification and minimization. I hide from and avoid people.
I believe doing so I do avoid problems and headaches. Some days I feel desperate for having some human conexion, other than my partner and I go obssesive about others. Most online.
Then, I make the conexión or go around people and It is never as bad as I imagined.
And I have two focus of infections in mouth and I keep diminising It. No money, no time, no good dentist...

 

[ms spock]

they are too self-critical.

Well that is definitely one of my problems.

 

[Tinyflame]

Me too. That's why I thought of it. :hug:

 

[Rani G2]

@Living in the 70s

I'm always falling back into this cobweb of thoughts that those who Dont get in touch with others, those who Dont show their struggle, talk about their problems are stronger. I am getting the silent treatment from some people and now I feel i am the weaker one who is hurt and needs others attention and they on the other hand are pretty OK without having me in their world. Its a very black and white mind construction and its making me mad somewhat. How can I break this?