Narcissist Personality Disorder (covert)

[Decumiw]

There's a lot more people who are like this nowadays, I don't understand why but society has changed drastically, for the worse

 

[Wiki]

@Bunaw, Funny you'd ask that question - it was on the tip of my tongue but didn't want to insult the OP. I also get a sense that age is playing a role here, which changes things dramatically.

 

[Gopac]

If you're seriously that worried about it go to a local mental hospital and get evaluated. The one here does it for free.

 

[Amarit]

@Bunaw, Funny you'd ask that question - it was on the tip of my tongue but didn't want to insult the OP. I also get a sen...

Thank you for being respectful and not dismissing my question just because of a simple thing like age. That like saying just because your young you don't understand anything. I've met adults who act like children and kids who act like adults. Age has no effect whatsoever. Except when it deals with their culture. Everyone has doubts someday and I posted anynomoysly to avoid age discrimination on my doubts.

 

[Udowi]

What do y'all think? Being paranoid, or is this really what I am a person with NPD?

No one here can possibly answer this based on the limited amount of information given. Self diagnosis via a quiz on the internet is unlikely to give you an accurate assessment either. You need a professional to assess you.

Age has no effect whatsoever.

Except that when it comes to diagnoses it can actually be a really important factor.

I'm not allowed to have a therapist because I'm not, "crazy enough." Quoting my guardian.

Based on this you are probably still a minor, so I appreciate that accessing professional help is problematic, but is there a counsellor at your school/college you could speak to about some of your concerns confidentially.

 

[Wiki]

I totally agree with you - young age does not necessarily mean that a person can't grasp the full extent of things. Heck, sometimes I think teenagers understand more than some adults sometimes. That said, when it comes to personality disorders such as NPD, age can make a big difference. Some behavioral traits that are considered disordered in adults are quite common and normal in certain developmental stages and nothing to be concerned about. So I did wonder how age would filter into what you've described.

 

[Amarit]

I totally agree with you - young age does not necessarily mean that a person can't grasp the full extent of things. Heck,...

I looked up a bit about it and it said that it worsens with age. That's about all it said.

 

[Ivehe]

From everything I've read about narcissists, they typically don't seek help or think they have anything wrong with each other.
This is coming from someone raised by one and also married to one (divorced from now).
I've also taken the test and shown up as having npd traits as well. If you're not allowed to have a therapist maybe you could start with your medical dr and talk to him/her about your feelings.

Like the others I'm not a dr and can't diagnose but can offer support.

 

[Wiki]

I looked up a bit about it and it said that it worsens with age. That's about all it said.

Yes, that's correct, as anything untreated will. However, when it comes to narcissistic traits, age is a crucial factor. For example, it is perfectly normal and not out of the ordinary for teens to experience periods during which they are largely focused on themselves, their needs, their will, their feelings, with little care or concern for those around them. Some more than others. It's an important developmental stage during which the sense of self is solidified. Now, if those personality traits do not soften into adulthood and that sort of self involvement and lack of concern for others does not give way to a more nuanced view, that's when one can start thinking about personality disorders.

Same can be said for the normal adolescent sense of "untouchableness" or "almightyness" which is important for developing and testing a healthy sense of personal boundaries. In adults, however, these traits are less common and thus could be a sign of a disorder.


There are many overlaps between NPD and what is considered "normal" during adolescents, that's why age is important when talking about this specific disorder.

 

[Ejip]

Some personality disorders can't be diagnosed until the individual is past age 18. For reasons that others have stated.

 

[Bewif]

not dismissing my question just because of a simple thing like age.

I wasn't dismissing your question. I was showing you the respect of asking, rather than assuming.

Age matters in psychology, neurology, & medicine. And very specifically in relation to your question; because the symptoms of NPD are normal in children & teenagers. Just like the symptoms of sociopathy are normal in toddlers and preadolescents. Does that mean that a toddler or a 10yo is a sociopath? No. That means they're a toddler or a 10yo. Just like a teenager exhibiting every symptom of NPD, is almost never a narcissist. They're being a teenager.

Not only are these developmental stages normal, but they're actually wanted. Without them you end up with a whole heap of problems.

Personality Disorders have to be enduring and persistent. If you're not an adult, yet, it doesn't matter how grown up you are, how capable you are, or how smart you are. You don't know if how you are now is going to be enduring & persistent. Your brain is still plastic & still developing, has vast potential for change, and there's simply no way to know if you're going to still be this way in 10 years. Think back 10 years. How different are you now, from then? If you're 40? Not a lot. If you're 15? One whole helluva lot.

As you didn't answer my question: If you're 40 and have a guardian because you've been deemed incompetent, then I would very strongly urge you to take the results of your snapshot test to your therapist. If you're 15, part of the reason this stage is wanted during the teen years is for exactly this process; self awareness in how you view yourself, and regardless of how others feel about you, determining what you like & dislike about yourself, your actions, your thoughts, and keeping what you like, and ditching what you don't. Start that.

 

[Ojo]

^^^^^
Bunaw

I forgot to go to more options & match the scree names before posting.