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[tamEdee]

Hey all,
I am new to this and need all the help I can get. My boyfriend and I were friends before we started dating and he mentioned his problem with ptsd. I didn't know how much of a problem it was until now. There's distance and anger he blows up over the littlest things and has told me I don't deserve him, I'm a piece of crap, etc. I lovr him very much and I do everything and wanna do what I can to help but I feel like I've become a nag and annoying. I could really use some help before it gets worse and I lose him. I want to make this work and will do what I can... someone please help me!!

 

[Wahinekaialii]

I am very new at this too, but what I have learned so far with my boyfriend with PTSD is that they can be rude and obnoxious and not think before they say things. You have a rough road ahead of you and you either need a lot of patience or you need to get yourself in to see some kind of behavioral specialist so they can help explain PTSD syndrome with you.

 

[tamEdee]

There is much I have already been through with him and opened my eyes and broke my heart. I
Am Patient and understanding and after everything all I wanna do is help.. I have read everything I could grab a hold of and even joined this site so I can talk about whats goin on and get advice... isnt that enough? Or would A specialist help more?

 

[Wahinekaialii]

There is much I have already been through with him and opened my eyes and broke my heart. I
Am Patient and understanding and after everything all I wanna do is help.. I have read everything I could grab a hold of and even joined this site so I can talk about whats goin on and get advice... isnt that enough? Or would A specialist help more?

I too, have been thru a lot with my guy and I like you am very understanding and very patient. Things would get really intense with his anger and outbursts that it started to affect me (fear, withdrawal). Then I went to see a behavioral specialist and she explained the PTSD side and provided insight to his behavior and also provided me with insight on my own ways of dealing with such a person. But then, different strokes for different folks.

 

[tamEdee]

Yea that is true. I have nothing to lose but more insight to gain. I will look into seeing a specialist because I believe it would help. I just wanna help in anyway I can I hate seeing him going through this and not helping :/ thank you very much

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Welcome to the forum.

 

[tamEdee]

Thank you .. I hope all works out.. I am definitely gonna keep up with the different topics and post as I go.

 

[anthony]

Welcome to the forum.

 

[KP the nut]

Hi and welcome to the forum.