abandon455
Bronze Member
Hello, I'm new to this forum but have been reading it the past few months. I have been dating someone with PTSD and she has been slowly pulling away. it started with cancelling dates and saying she was sick and then would say i shouldn't be angry about it. last June i caught her in a lie and she hung up on me and started calling me the liar and so on and forth and that's when her agression started. Few weeks passed and things seemed to get normal and she starts calling on her own when she has not in months without me pushing it. we got into a small argument on the way taking her to work and then later that night she texts me and i brought her needing to reciprocate affection and she went off like a bomb and it went from that to a few days later wanting a break for a few weeks. Then at the end of that break i saw her on campus siting at a table with a guy and wanted to say hi since it had been few weeks and she imminently told me to please leave and then told me a second time to go when i left i said that it hurt me and that maybe we needed to go our separate ways. she immediately texting me sorry she will see me soon and then of course didn't two days later she ended our relationship after acting wishy washy but promising it was just a two week break that we would meet the following week.
Then ever since has texted me less and less and won't call and has even taken me off spotify recently . She claims it's because she does not trust me and is not comfortable seeing me or calling and that i need to respect that. she gets angry when i bring up maybe we should cut communication all together and when i brought up boundaries of if she can't cuss and not be snide and can't pick up the phone and call after two months i need to leave and says i'm talking to her like a child and talking like i'm better then her and blows up. she claims she needs time and space and she misses me and wants to see me but she's scared to now for some reason and that she can't get bad memories out of her head and now someday's that are rare she will say i love you most other days she's angry and other days she's in a i can't trust you but when i offer to talk or build trust she says she can't call or see me so that won't work. But her action's are triggering my fear of abandonment and when i bring up these trigger's she goes so what if i don't want to see you or spend my free time with you or took you off spotify it's just spotify do you hear yourself? Other times she randomly goes on from anger to how i'm not nice to her and why can't i be and why can't i talk to her normally and respect she can't see me or call until she can come back but does int know when . I'm not sure if it's the PTSD or her own behavior.
Then ever since has texted me less and less and won't call and has even taken me off spotify recently . She claims it's because she does not trust me and is not comfortable seeing me or calling and that i need to respect that. she gets angry when i bring up maybe we should cut communication all together and when i brought up boundaries of if she can't cuss and not be snide and can't pick up the phone and call after two months i need to leave and says i'm talking to her like a child and talking like i'm better then her and blows up. she claims she needs time and space and she misses me and wants to see me but she's scared to now for some reason and that she can't get bad memories out of her head and now someday's that are rare she will say i love you most other days she's angry and other days she's in a i can't trust you but when i offer to talk or build trust she says she can't call or see me so that won't work. But her action's are triggering my fear of abandonment and when i bring up these trigger's she goes so what if i don't want to see you or spend my free time with you or took you off spotify it's just spotify do you hear yourself? Other times she randomly goes on from anger to how i'm not nice to her and why can't i be and why can't i talk to her normally and respect she can't see me or call until she can come back but does int know when . I'm not sure if it's the PTSD or her own behavior.
