You go be a f*ckwit by yourself, thanks. I’d rather spend my energy on amazing people, doing brilliant things.
This is my husband's attitude and he is all about me adopting it. I, unfortunately, second guess and eventually make myself nuts with verifying that I am being fair to all parties involved. Though, I am getting better about taking the stance that being fair to myself does sometimes involve leaving the building.
Idiots and assholes, meanwhile, are a dime a dozen, and bore me.
I constantly feel guilt for assuming the other person really is just an asshole. I know that people make these assessments about other people daily but codependency is lame. This is a whole lot of why I am getting better about walking out of situations -- I can't take all the stress. First I am frustrated that this winner can't get his shit together and then I end up pissed at myself for not being more patient, even if it happens ten times - even if it causes me to be inconvenienced, injured, etc.
Even my therapist commented on the number of apparently incompetent people I reported dealing with. I am a magnet. He also discouraged me from spending time thinking on it. He told me I could exit without creating an airtight court case -- if it isn't working for me, it's not working, he said, expressing that it sounded like I was being quite patient but was just finding myself in a lot of aggravating situations.