New And Needing Help

[Alexa329]

So I'm new to this forum, and really new to dating someone who's been in the military. I am just looking for any advice from anyone who have gone or are going through something similar or just has some decent advice.

I am just hitting the year mark with my boyfriend who is a veteran. Recently he received his honorable discharge certificate and it hit home for him. Though he's been out for four years, I can see the military is still getting to him, of course, why wouldn't it? I don't pretend to understand what he's going through, but I do my best to understand and and listen when he does choose to open up, which isn't very often. I think he is still suffering from PTSD and he blames himself for the death of some of his friends, even when it wasn't his fault. He has an issue with alcohol, we can't even go out without him having a minimum of 6-8 drinks. I am not a huge drinker, and I find it hard to deal with. I realize things could be way worse, but I am worried things will only get worse if I stay with him. It kills me to hear him blame himself and wish he was back in the Marine's. Am I not being understanding enough? Is there something else I should be doing to help him? I'd like him to speak with someone and I have told him this, but I don't want to push it too hard if he doesn't want to do it. Any advice would be great. I appreciate it.

 

[atilla]

Tell him about this site. It's for combat veterans, only, from all services from many different countries, from Vietnam until the next one. This site has personally helped me. Everyone here, to some degree, suffers from ptsd. Your boyfriend is welcome here, read the posts, and tell him welcome home and come join our little crew.

 

[JarHed]

Hi Alexa

The sister site to this one has much more support for people who are married or in relationships with combat vets that have PTSD. You can find the link below. I think you'll find many like yourself looking for info and guidance about the things you've mentioned. As Atilla mentioned this site is for Combat Vets Only. You'll get banned if you continue to post. You can read the posts here but I think the support on the other site will be of a greater help to you.Just in case you can't find the link, here it is: www.myptsd.com

Also, as was mentioned, perhaps your friend would like to check this site out. There's a lot of info, help and support as we're all combat vets with PTSD. I wish you both best in your struggles.

JarHed

 

[combatgoldfish]

Failure to pay attention to detail. This is a veteran's site. That relationship is doomed. :unsure:

 

[reddevil1111]

You should enslave yourself to him. Have any and all kinds of sex with him. Get your good looking girlfriends involved as well. Let him have his way with all of them as well. Maybe even at the same time.

Cook him great meals. Like lobster and steak.

Go get a great job and earn large amounts of money. Oh and give it all to him. Never ask him how much goes to strippers or beer. just let him have it.

only watch what he wants on TV. If he wants to go fishing or hunting you let him. Offer to help him in any way. Learn to clean his kills/fish.

never gripe, or bitch. Keep a clean home. Don't f*ck around on him.

Do all that for 40 years and then come back. We will have more advice by then. Good luck.

Oh and while you do all this for him tell him I said Semper Fi! He will get it.

 

[atilla]

f*ckin WHOOOOAH! Red...lol

 

[Spock]

 

[Sarg]

Hey, Red, let me know when you find her, I've got an engagement ring around here some where.

Sarg

 

[reddevil1111]

Hey I got mine! I was just helping out a fellow Marine. :)

 

[Friday]

Hey I got mine! I was just helping out a fellow Marine. :)

:ROFLMAO::LOL:

That line. Swear to frogs one of these days I'm going to print out a Monopoly Get Out of Jail Free Card with that line in its place.

 

[CAFTT0607]

Awesome Red! Priceless!

 

[Lee C]

Welcome mate