New To Therapy And Dreading It

[BlueOrange]

I found the relationship with my therapist very difficult, and had a very tough time getting started. But learning how to make that relationship work (including dealing with problems in the relationship) really helped me with my other relationships.

I've felt a strong pressure to be 'well behaved' in front of my shrink, although I think that pressure comes from me and my fears. Last time I was there (a few days ago), the symptoms came out in force, I don't think I'd ever had them display so strongly in front of him before. But I've known him for 9 years now, and trusted him to respond constructively, which he did.

 

[lisamarie]

I avoided therapy because I didn't think it would help....since I had my friends to talk to. I was wrong.

I have two therapists. One I like much better than the other. I've had a couple issues with one of them (the one that does EMDR) but I am trying to stick with it, because I think the EMDR is important.

Best of luck to everyone seeking therapy. :)

 

[BlueOrange]

I avoided therapy because I didn't think it would help....since I had my friends to talk to. I was wrong.

I'd like to reinforce this point. I have a lot of friends who have been through a lot of stuff, and they're excellent at helping me to feel like I'm not alone. I have a wife who works extremely hard to support me.

If you assume for a moment that your social circle consists of the world's best trauma therapists (which is sometimes what I want to believe), here are some reasons to see a professional anyway:

• It's nice to be able to focus on having fun when you are with your friends
• Giving therapy is tiring work, and if being around you is hard work, it can make the relationship less enjoyable for your friends
• Sometimes people who have studied a subject in a professional way do actually provide better support than non-specialists

 

[Wanda]

Family support is what gets me through in between therapy sessions. I have a wonderful supportive cheerleading squad and my journal helps me make peace with myself.

 

[anndeb]

I agree, friends can be very helpful, but in my opinion there is no substitute for professional help, when needed.. and I surely need it.

I remember my first therapist, who gently guided me in the ways of how healthy relationships can work. No, I didn't have a clue, never having had nor seen a healthy one, I needed the info desperately. Once I began to get the nourishment I needed from loving friends (family was a washout) I was well on my way. What a blessing my friends have become in my life and I owe it all to that one good therapist I was also blessed to have. Good luck to all who venture here!