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And right now do not care. My husband was playing hide and go seek with my granddaughter. Years ago my oldest daughter wrote some pretty whacked out stuff on the inside of her closet most was related to things she was dealing with at the time. But one I didn't know about that my husband found today was her writing my ex's name and the words " I want to kill you in the worst possible way".

He was the one that caused all this.

She has panic attacks around men and uses pot to self medicate. She can't sleep without it. She is cutting down her drinking because it was getting out of control. At one point the girl that hated hard drugs was doing coke. She quit. She is the one that kept having suicide attempts and acting out ending up in the hospital. She also refuses to talk about anything that happened with the ex.
I don't know what to do. Leave it alone or confront her about it. I want to be sick. I can't even look at it. Just the name. I can't deal with even the name.

What do I do
 
If its too triggering for you could your husband speak to her? What is her relationship like with him? Fatherly? Speaking is best but writing her a letter may be a second best choice way of approaching her, Try not to jump to too many conclusions. You first want to ask the questions.

Im really sorry you are dealing with this. Wait until you are grounded before making any decisions.
 
Be there for your daughter.
That's the most important thing.
It sounds like you always have been.
It's a delicate process and she's the one that is ultimately gonna have to decide to face her demons.
Love and support. Love and support. Great healers. Repeat as needed.
The crisis was raging back when she wrote the words, not today when you found them.
Move cautiously when prying open old wounds.
Prayers for acceptance, guidance, forgiveness, and healing.
So sorry people can be such carpheads, and that we have to get involved with them.
The right opportunity will present itself. Wait till then.
In the meantime, comfort and love....
Take care.
 
If its too triggering for you could your husband speak to her? What is her relationship like with him?...
I can't do anything right now. She wants him go adopt her.
It has to go. I can't have it here.

She won't talk about it.

At some point I have to get off the bathroom floor
 
I'm calm now. My granddaughter is still here and hearing her helps alot. Then the gigantic bear hug and "I love you" did it. She's precious.

I'm not going to ask her or have my husband ask her either. I can't do that to her. She's not even in this state anymore running from everything as it is.
 
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