General Now I Have Two Suicidal People

[Glara]

My friend, who's 23 year old daughter passed away, just texted me that she just got out of the hospital. She was fired last week and slit her wrists. She and my sufferer live in the same state and I visited both last month. I'm supposed to go again in Dec, I don't know if I can handle this.

 

[reallydown]

I am sorry you are going through this now. I know what it's like when someone you love/care a lot about attempts suicide. It's tough. Try to take good care of yourself throughout this process too...It can be very draining. Hang in there.

 

[StarChild]

my sufferer

Glara, in your last threads you wrote:

I guess he just broke up with me in a roundabout way.

So sort of ended it a few days ago,

I have to admit, when reading your other 24 threads about this guy, the whole story is more than confusing. Are you two now still really together, or is this "my sufferer"-thinking" more of a kind of a wishful thinking of you?

 

[Glara]

Honestly I'm not sure at this point. I'm supposed to go down to visit my friend next month and he wants to see me, but I'm not sure in what way. I'm not sure that he knows either.

 

[nursenurse]

Glara, why don't you make the decision, p*ss or get off the pot? The damage you are doing to yourself is not worth it, you need some peace in your soul. Being stuck in neutral and only going in whatever direction the hill is facing is no way to go. He just does not seem that interested, in my mind, and you deserve to be happier than you appear. Just my 2 cents.

 

[Glara]

So it's not just ptsd. That's what I'm trying to figure out. If he hadn't told me about ptsd I never would have put up with this. When I think that maybe I should end it, I get a text in the middle of the day that he's suicidal. How do I wrap my head around that? And how do I tell him it's too much I don't want to do this anymore? I feel like I can't even have feelings in this thing and it didn't start put this way. It started with so much attention, I don't have any idea how it evolved into this.

 

[Nicolette]

I get a text in the middle of the day that he's suicidal.

That's pretty poor considering you don't even know where you stand with him. It doesn't really matter how it evolved, what does matter is how you deal with it from this moment on.

 

[Glara]

@Nicolette that's very true but I really have no clue how to handle it.

 

[nursenurse]

You say good bye. You don't lay blame, you really do not need a reason other than the relationship is not working for you. But you have to be prepared that he may say anything to keep you on the hook, including suicidal ideation. He is not yours to fix.

Then you sit back and think about yourself, and what you have learned from this, and formulate what the meaning of a true partner or even a friend is to you. And then you stick with people who are uplifting and loving in ways that you want to treated, instead of hanging on to someone who does not seem to have your best interests at heart.

You said it all when you said if he didn't have PTSD you would not have put up with his nonsense. Not all PTSD folks put out his kind of nonsense, and they are quite capable of normal relationships, albeit more difficult at times than the national average.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Maybe it is time to turn off your phone for awhile... seriously. You are not responsible for the actions of other grown folks, especially if they are holding you emotionally hostage.