General On Days Like This.....

[Bilby]

it sucks being on this end of being shut out, ignored and feeling like just your presence is detested.

Yes, I know what you mean. It's horrible.

Thinking of you.

 

[nursenurse]

It's with any kind of love, or caring relationship. I did palliative nursing for many years, and honestly, I found I could do the physical and emotional nursing with my patients well enough, but the bulk of the real nursing was with the family of the patients. They suffered in a different but no less painful way.

Do not downplay the significance of your own pain. As much as the suffering of our loved ones needs validation, so does ours as the supporters. A lot of us, myself included, have chosen to be in these relationships, but it doesn't make the fears and the frustrations any less in quality, quantity, or validity. And just because we chose this, does not take away our right to be heard and acknowledged, to just plain express ourselves, like everyone else on this planet.

Hugs, Nicolette.

 

[a3a2]

It's so hard when they are doing better for most of the time as you get used to that- it's like the equilibrium changes and you adapt but really its just a matter of time.... it doesn't go away... *sigh*

Funny, you were able to so aptly describe my own feeling about my spouse's chronic illness. And I am sure he could say the same about my ptsd. That's when I get down the most, when I come to the full realization that things won't change. Not my ptsd (or does it?) Not his illness (at least in his case, not for the better). But then I try to remember I only have to take one day at a time...sometimes one moment at a time. Hang in there, Nicolette. Step out with a friend, cry and rest and exercise. Take care of you, and Anthony will follow.

 

[a3a2]

I was thinking.. it would be really handy if we could pop (LARGE) holes in the bottom of all our stress cups..

Oh, I love this!!!! Sometimes stepping back and saying "no" at least makes a slow leak for me!

 

[therapybankrupt]

Wishing all the supporters Peace today!

tb

 

[Nicolette]

I feel physically sick from the stress of this today. :yuck:

 

[Loloma]

Sending you huge :hug:'s Nicolette. Also to all supporters for that matter.

It takes a lot of courage and love to support a partner with PTSD. In saying that, it's not something I could do. I have enough problems living with my own PTSD. Perhaps selfish, I don't know.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I hope there is something you can do to get your mind off of it and relax, Nicolette.

Wishing you some peace. :)

 

[Abstract]

I agree Loloma. There is no way I could do it. Credit to anyone who does.

 

[Nicolette]

I believe I deserve a freaking medal some days!!! :ninja:

 

[BewitchedBewildered]

It's so hard when they are doing better for most of the time as you get used to that. When they then fall over it seems worse even though it is milder than before - it's like the equilibrium changes and you adapt but really its just a matter of time.... it doesn't go away... *sigh*

I get that. I call it the "push me, pull me". We take two steps forward and then three steps back. I started getting nervous when things seemed to be going so well and had a good talk moving us forward. I got nervous, but got lulled into trusting it.

And, now I haven't heard a word from him in two weeks.

PTSD is a real, cruel bitch.

 

[cherryblossom]

I get having PTSD is worse than being a supporter but each person's pain and suffering is their own...........

That is the exact reason why I live on my own, and don't involve anyone else in my PTSD struggles. It's bad enough that I suffer. Why would I choose to inflict that on someone else? I won't.