Out Your Abuser

[krystina]

I think this would be a great idea. It would be hard to do it but I think that in the long run it will help me to feel better and many of you to feel better. I know that it is hard to talk about what the perp did to you, but guess what? many of you have already wrote down what happened to you and have shared it with all of us. I think that if we talked more about what happened to us than eventually talking about it would be a lot easier for us to do. and we might even be able to talk about it with our therapists instead of writing it because we all kind of know that talking about it caused us to heal a little better and maybe even a little faster. I am not saying that writing it down is wrong. Even I write my feelings down and write down what happened to me instead of talking about it with my T. I think that the new thing cb and anthony are talking about would be a really good idea. It will be hard for us but if we already come this far and as far as i know it seems like we are all pretty strong and are willing to do whatever we can to heal. So be a bit positive and we \can all try it out together and see how it works out.

 

[Crusoe]

I would just like to add that I would LOVE to shout the name of the guy who raped me on a forum. I'm not scared of him, he couldn't track me down, I know his name and I'm not afraid to use it :). So this sort of forum would put a real smile on my face. I'm not sure why...maybe revenge, maybe to warn others, I don't know but naming him would make me jump for joy. It's just a personal thing though and I completely understand why some people wouldn't want to do that. I would be really pleased if he read his name up there and thought "aaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh, I shouldn't have messed with her" but my only concern would be that he would try to clear his name by persuing me legally (although it would be very stupid of him to try that indeed). I think I can get round that though as there are 2 people in his area with his name. He would never be able to prove I was talking about him and not the other one. There is also the concern that some solicitors, in a bid to make a packet would read a forum like this and then contact him to try to get him to persue me legally. I don't know if they would go that far though. I think I would prefer to name him in a public forum, although it may be safer legally to do it in a private forum. Hmmm not sure there but I would be happy to name him one way or another.

 

[WonderingWhy]

I know I have to be different.

Of course you do! :p :D Different is unique. If everyone was the same life would be boring. :rolleyes: