DID Parts and friendships

[Reflections]

Some of my parts want space to be seen as male/nuetural by friends. I have a group of online friends who assume I'm male and this helps fulfill those wants. I wanted to start streaming with these friends but this could cause complication. (1) having to explain gender and losing the complete illusion (2) other friend groups or family possibly finding out I'm purposely going by male pronouns. I'm not comfortable talking about my parts with friends nor gender with family.

Have you run into similar issues of conflicting or different needs concerning friendships?

 

[Ronin]

You don't have to explain gender with the gaming group. A simple: Yeah yeah, look a chick, still a dude, man... now can we go back to the quest? :) , will do. :) (Any variant of No big deal should do for that group of acquaintances, if they make a big deal out of it or harrass you for it, then they are not the group worth your time and better ones should be there, findable.)

You can tell your family and other friends that is just a fun thing / other group thing.... and leave it there. Seriously, you do not owe them explanations, full disclosure, or anything the like. A lot of people roleplay etc these days, it is something for fun, and should be left alone as it is, as fun and play and something you are entitled to.

 

[Reflections]

That's a helpful point about making it not a big deal. I tend to over explain but I don't have to. I agree about harassment, though I'd be shocked if this group acted in an unsupportive way. I'm a lot more careful in the friends I pick now.

It's not a gaming group exactly. So I won't be RPing Nordak the Barbarian and trying to stay in character :p More like I'll be drawing or gaming solo while streaming and just hanging out with them as I do that. RPing as a dude though, might be a good outlet. You're also correct about RPing and having fun and play is totally normal.

The more specific issue is my sister may want to participate or watch my streams because we're close and share many interests including streams we watch. She'll known it's not an RP if she viewed it. Moreover, she sometimes hangs in my office where my PC is and lately it's been every day. I suppose I could stream when she's gone to bed. Though I'm often tired by then. I know, I know. I could ask her to leave. I have in the past when I need it. It's just harder to ask her to leave so I can "have fun without her". I'll probably figure a time frame out.