Recently I was triggered and realised my response was trauma related. When Im having a trauma related response, I cant get the trigger event in perspective. But now Im looking back and thinking the person involved in the trigger crossed a boundary that she shouldnt have.
Ive been to lots of safeguarding training events in the past, theyre always unnerving, but theyre usually done sensitively enough that they dont trigger me, so I know Im ok talking about abuse in the right way in the right context.
So recently I asked a member of staff a question about young people and what could be a sexual fetish and where safeguarding reporting would come in. They werent sure themselves, so they asked another member of staff. It was the second member of staff that triggered me - she answered the question, but then she described in detail a hypothetical scenario of a person searching on the internet, that they would be groomed and theyd be made to do this (she described the details of this sexual fetish) and then theyd be made to go on to the next step which is this (again she gave detail of this sexual fetish).
In this context, she was in a position of power (her teacher, me student), it was after the lecture, so I was by myself with her, so I wasnt in a position to leave the situation without being disrespectful. She doesnt know about my history and I know shes not responsible for the effect it had on me. But is it ok for her to describe details of a sexual fetish to a student?
Ive been to lots of safeguarding training events in the past, theyre always unnerving, but theyre usually done sensitively enough that they dont trigger me, so I know Im ok talking about abuse in the right way in the right context.
So recently I asked a member of staff a question about young people and what could be a sexual fetish and where safeguarding reporting would come in. They werent sure themselves, so they asked another member of staff. It was the second member of staff that triggered me - she answered the question, but then she described in detail a hypothetical scenario of a person searching on the internet, that they would be groomed and theyd be made to do this (she described the details of this sexual fetish) and then theyd be made to go on to the next step which is this (again she gave detail of this sexual fetish).
In this context, she was in a position of power (her teacher, me student), it was after the lecture, so I was by myself with her, so I wasnt in a position to leave the situation without being disrespectful. She doesnt know about my history and I know shes not responsible for the effect it had on me. But is it ok for her to describe details of a sexual fetish to a student?