Rage

[Kb3]

I started taking magnesium along with my B vitamins, which helps the B6 to absorb better, and it's helped a ton with hormonal mood swings.

I'm off to the vitamin store right now!:)

I also really appreciate the felt sense and inner child stuff you mentioned - it reinforces my belief in how effective they are and I will keep up the work I am doing in therapy with it. I'm doing Somatic Experiencing and it does seem like it is reaching me on the subconscious level, but as you describe, it seems to be too simple somehow to be that powerful. The effect it has had on me cannot be argued with though, and it is great to read that someone else has had the same result!

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[LizBeth1]

So glad it's working for you! I know, it does seem too simple, doesn't it? Tonight I was at a party for several hours, and was worried about getting triggered. But before the party I asked my inner children to hang out in their safe space, talk amongst themselves, have fun, and said I'd be back later. Great night, no triggers, felt calm and clear. Doesn't always work that well but it's nice when it does!

 

[blueangel371115]

I feel pretty horrible about it now. So for the ladies, you might want to keep hormones in mind too, which just exaggerates all the other stuff

I try to. It's a bear.

 

[Emilie]

I think CBT and anger management are good places to look. I used to not be the angry type of person until I had severe secondary wounding two years ago, Up until that point I would just freeze and succumb to bad situations. Nowadays I pump with adrenaline and rage when something sets me off. I bottled it in, and now it's all coming out.

I guess I struggle with trying to justify everything people do. Kind of a "just" outlook on the world and how people should be. I became a black and white thinker too, so if you aren't a saint in my eyes, you weren't a good person. I'm just beginning to learn about that, so in a sense I realize the irrationality of my thinking, but thinking about it doesn't completely dispel the emotion for me.

It's really hard because unjustified or unexplained behaviors of people send me soaring. It's also aggravating that I know this, and cannot control it. I'm so hard-wired to react that I feel helpless and powerless.

 

[LizBeth1]

I hear ya Emilie. I'm also just now exploring 'gray' as opposed to black and white. In many ways it takes some pressure off. (I don't 'have' to banish mostly-decent people from my life just because they have a few flaws that I exaggerate in my mind, etc.)

Reactivity is really hard, yeah. I think there is an art to 'catching yourself doing it' in the nick of time, walking out of the room, hanging up, whatever you need to do. Dealing with it in an acute situation is a lot harder than doing preventive work ahead of time. My T and I are doing that with the inner child work. It does take the edge off and makes one less reactive... also requires some dedication though. But it's been worth it for me so far!

 

[Anna]

When I get angry I find swearing really helps get it out. Especially when driving. I do not look at other drivers at all and make sure I always drive with the windows closed (Have airconditioning) so I can swear to my hearts content. Since I started working out and doing more sports I found this helps a lot as well. If I get really angry I go for a walk or cycle.

 

[Kb3]

When I get angry I find swearing really helps get it out.

Love it, thank you - works for me too!

The other thing I do is name a ball when I play golf or tennis. I call it whoever I'm angry at and make sure to hit it as hard as I can. I also did archery once while on vacation, and imagined that the target was actually the rear end of my perpetrator. I became amazingly accurate in a very short time - the instructor was very impressed!

 

[Kb3]

Just checking back in on this thread.

I have made progress - my feelings of rage are much less intense and much more controllable. I get angry, like everybody does, but it doesn't become a runaway train anymore.

I have been doing Somatic Experiencing for about nine months now and it has been amazingly effective for this symptom and many of my others. It really blows me away when I think about it. I have had almost eighteen years(!!!!!!!!!!!) of different mainstream therapies, and none of them have touched the problem like this one does.

 

[Srain]

This is GREAT Eat0429!! :) I love reading this!! You are doing great.

I never understood before that staying inside myself and feeling it out, understanding the where it all comes from (for me) had very little to do with was happening. I'm getting that and it's helping so much, I, too am feeling the progress.

I have had to pick my battles with the "black and white" I'm okay with them. Some things just are black and white.

No hitting EVER- anyone, no space violations-stay out of personal space, no animal abuses-I will and do intercede, etc...it's okay for me to have some and work on greys where they need to be. This makes it easier for me. I can't not be me entirely, I am who I am. I just need a little tweaking to try to be more "people friendly" :ninja:

 

[kimberley dawn]

Gotta learn about this Somatic Experiencing!! So great to read someone's healing a bit! Getting a grip! You keep going that way, it's right for you!! A lovely thread!

 

[Kb3]

I never understood before that staying inside myself and feeling it out, understanding the where it all comes from (for me) had very little to do with was happening. I'm getting that and it's helping so much, I, too am feeling the progress.

I just need a little tweaking to try to be more "people friendly" :ninja:

I'm so glad that's happening for you Rain, it really does make a big difference to be able to stand back and realise that your internal reality is different than what's happening externally. Mindfulness is massive!

A lot of it for me was and is excess adrenalin as well. I think that the SE is helping to release that trapped traumatic energy so it doesn't come flying out inappropriately when I get triggered. I don't really care what it is as long as it's working!

Aww I don't know, you seem people friendly enough to me:).

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