General Rant and complain thread open to all supporters

[blackemerald1]

Sounds like he could be committed for a while ...esp with these constant threats to suicide?
2 birds, 1 stone?

 

[LuckiLee]

Ikr!! He checked himself in to a rehab facility right after this last "accident". Stayed a week. Came out drinking more than ever. He does other crap too. Meds, kratom, Coke. Whatever he can get his hands on.

I told J last night " We can't be on suicide watch, if you think he's going to act on it you should call for a welfare check. They can handle it much better than we can". "No. Blah blah blah. That wouldn't work for me". Blah blah blah. (He did mention an intervention though)

This guy is about to lose everything. His job. And if he loses that? His house. He has NO ONE but J right now. He's destroyed every relationship he's ever had. Even with his daughter. J knows he can't do anything and is only enabling him. But he's his twin. He's said "if he kills himself you know I won't be the same again. Right?" Ugh!! J has lost too many "brothers" to suicide. This is so f#cked up!

I want so bad to tell him what he's DOING TO J. I am livid over this shit!! My guy and his safety and recovery from his trauma is my concern. Not someone who's problems come from addiction!! His CHOICES FFS!!

Thanks for letting me vent!!

I'm gonna enjoy my day and start packing for vacation. BBQ. Enjoy the lake. And visit Dad for a few.

 

[Freida]

Well crap now I'm pissed off too!!!! this is so wrong!!?
Any chance you can talk j into taking his brother to the ER next time he threatens? Here's the logic to use.....J thinks he feels bad now but he's gonna feel way worse if brother does kill himself and he realizes he didn't intervene and get him immediate help. That's a lot of guilt. If he takes him in at least he can say he did everything possible and if brother is pissed off its ok...because a pissed off brother is better than a dead one.

Plus...if J drags his ass to the er a couple times twin will stop using that line because it proves J is going to do what's necessary to get him help. Hopefully it puts J in a more proactive role...and stops brother from using him like this

If he fusses , well, if it was a fellow vet what would he do? Yep...THAT'S the question to ask him. Would he let a vet become one of the 22? Or would he step in? What makes this different?

 

[LuckiLee]

I'm going to try to get J to tell him he will call the police for a welfare check the next time he threatens suicide.

J told me about a dream he had...
C actually went through with it and his family blamed J for not helping and not being there for him.

That's how f'd up dreams can be because J is the ONLY one there for C right now.

J said he was at peace with it (in his dream) because he didn't have to worry anymore. ?

He hasn't told him we can't take him up north with us yet. That's gonna break my guy's heart!!

 

[LuckiLee]

Well, he told him. Now I think they're both upset with me. Whatever. He got falling down drunk in a matter of 2 hours the other night. 2 freakin hours!! That's a serious problem. Who does that sh¡t? And you want us to bring you on holiday for 5 days with my fun loving family? Sorry bud. Not gonna happen.

J told him my family wouldn't understand and J doesn't want my family to think bad of him.

C said he could chill and just have a couple of beers. (yeah, right!!) J said he didn't think he could. My family is hard to explain. We're Belgian. My Great Grandmother brewed ale during prohibition. When we're together. We party. It's a wonder no one in my family is an alcoholic!! You should come to one of our funerals! No one ever falls over. No one slurrs their words. We don't F bomb every sentence. Well maybe in the rant and complain thread. ???

Maybe this will be his rock bottom? I told J maybe if he realizes wow even my twin doesn't want to be around me??. Or it could backfire. If the f'er actually does something stupid? ?

This is FUBAR.

J may just stay home with the asshole. Whatever! I can see C (lol) playing the guilt trip to the fullest. He already has. I'll be all alone. I can't get around anywhere. (What a d#ck!)

Sorry guys. I'm rambling now. ?
I'll take this over to my diary a little later.

XO

 

[Freida]

J may just stay home with the asshole

No. Not acceptable. Time for j to make a choice. He can't be all things to all people. Who does he want to lose? You or C. Because he can't keep both.

 

[LuckiLee]

After all that C has to work the weekend. So he can't go anyways. Put my guy through all that heartache! ?

 

[Freida]

After all that C has to work the weekend. So he can't go anyways. Put my guy through all that heartache! ?

What an asshat!!!

 

[LuckiLee]

Girlfriend, You don't know the half of it!!

J's on board with us. Agrees with everything I've said here. It's just going to be hard for him to cut the apron strings. No man left behind and all that. (God, love him ❤) I know he'll bring it up over the weekend so hopefully I can get him to understand he's only enabling his brother. Wish us luck.

Happy Independence day! ?

 

[Freida]

:hug: :hug:

 

[Never_falter2]

Sorry that I did not read the last posts (will do so soon) and I just use this for a quick rant. So we went to a Café/coffee bar/coffee house/cafe shop (I never know the difference between the words, how is this called where they serve you coffee and cake?) and the waitress talked veeeeeery slooooooowly.... veeeeryyyy loud. There seemed to be a lot of elderly customers. I think this is the reason why she talked like this to us young folks too.... and it did something to my vets self-esteem again. (I think I told you that he has sometimes trouble understanding what people say if there is a lot of background noise, like in a cofffe house for example... one of the things he doesn’t like about it... but coffee houses also trigger his ptsd... also while the town wasn’t very crowded the coffee house was somewhat crowded, or mega crowded but somewhat).

He did not feel like going there this day and we only went there because we were in a town... (which again he doesnt like very much) and the weather turned lousy and we didn’t want the kids to be outside in the rain when we forgot some of their rainwear.

So much later after we were in the car Vet fussed with me about forgetting their rain wear like “What is the problem with you? Always forgetting about things“ and after he had ranted and ranted and ranted and I told him “Why is it only my job to think of those things?“ he told me that he felt degraded by the way they treated him (and that he was sorry for his rant).
But while at the coffee house he was extremely polite, nice as a pie, joked with the waitress. Nobody would have thought that he felt treated in a degrading way (which he by the way wasn’t... I really think she didn’t even realize he was short of hearing but was just used talking to old people. The place was furnished oldfashioned and full of senior citizens. I do not think they have many young customers).

Anyway: why doesn’t he speak up when he feels treated the wrong way but always becomes nice as a pie (and later he is unfriendly with me)?

BTW when we are in a coffee house and a lot of people talk he often doesn’t understand what people are saying but I am not allowed to tell the waitress (he is still mad at me about the time I did years ago). So he should count himself lucky that she talked loud and slowly.

Sometimes he is being really complicated, isn’t he?

 

[Freida]

On good day? I have no problem speaking up politely...did it just last month and got our meals for free

on a bad day? It's all about faking it. Trying to speak up runs a risk of totally going off on some poor waitress because I'm pissed off and afraid and unhappy and blah blah. So I put a smile on my face and try not to lose my shit. Then I inevitably end up yelling at hubby. Because he's safe, we're not in public, blah blah blah.

it's not fair. But ptsd isn't fair.