Hello all! I'm just wondering on how many of you can give me advice on dealing with family who reject you? I consider myself gender queer and if I was to have a sexuality it would be pansexual. The only way I can explain that is due to I am attracted to the soul or energy of the person in question. Looks don't come into it at all.
I believe I don't fit within the traditional two gender role of Male or Female, both and none at once if you seen me in person and how I dress I think you would understand.
(I'm trying to explain to people who may know what I'm trying to express so I can get to my main point sorry. I hope you get what I mean)
The point being I've spoken to my mother about it as she never accepted it from the start and has rejected me completely now that I've been able to explain it to her and most of her family have called me freak or blaming it on my mental health or sexual abuse. Not once have I ever thought what happened to me was based on how I was attracted to people. I whole heartily believe I've always been this way and would be this way regardless of what gender I am born with a birth or what happened to me.
I was just wondering what were good tips to cope with rejection from family in this manner without making my depression worse than it is. However my Dad, Brother and my partner are happy and don't mind they just say well you have a name and that just suits you so don't stress your just that way regardless so don't worry. I am grateful for that as most people don't even have that but I've had my mums side of the family suggest to see a priest and what have you but the ironic thing is they are not religious at all. My Dad always believe it was for us to chose when we got older and we did. I'm not religious at all. But how on earth do you deal with people who are so irrational and condemning?
I've had my aunties on my mothers side tell me its a shame my mum missed her abortion & that I was orginally meant to not exist maybe for a reason and what have you.... just makes me upset like I'm swallowing my pride in my throat if that makes sense?
any help would be wonderful
I believe I don't fit within the traditional two gender role of Male or Female, both and none at once if you seen me in person and how I dress I think you would understand.
(I'm trying to explain to people who may know what I'm trying to express so I can get to my main point sorry. I hope you get what I mean)
The point being I've spoken to my mother about it as she never accepted it from the start and has rejected me completely now that I've been able to explain it to her and most of her family have called me freak or blaming it on my mental health or sexual abuse. Not once have I ever thought what happened to me was based on how I was attracted to people. I whole heartily believe I've always been this way and would be this way regardless of what gender I am born with a birth or what happened to me.
I was just wondering what were good tips to cope with rejection from family in this manner without making my depression worse than it is. However my Dad, Brother and my partner are happy and don't mind they just say well you have a name and that just suits you so don't stress your just that way regardless so don't worry. I am grateful for that as most people don't even have that but I've had my mums side of the family suggest to see a priest and what have you but the ironic thing is they are not religious at all. My Dad always believe it was for us to chose when we got older and we did. I'm not religious at all. But how on earth do you deal with people who are so irrational and condemning?
I've had my aunties on my mothers side tell me its a shame my mum missed her abortion & that I was orginally meant to not exist maybe for a reason and what have you.... just makes me upset like I'm swallowing my pride in my throat if that makes sense?
any help would be wonderful
