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good luck in getting another dog.....
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Service dogs for ptsd
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@Joan Your dog sounds amazing! You're right, and I'm definitely not looking for a dog to "solve all of my problems", but I definitely believe that a dog will force me out and help me deal with my problems.
It evades me, what he finds so unappealing about getting a dog. This is especially true whenever he actively says he wants a dog! Every time I try to talk about it, he "you don't need a dog! There is plenty of time to own a dog!" So maybe he does not actually understand the role PTSD Service Dogs play and how it's not just "owning a dog that makes you feel good" (though that is a rad ability, but different than a Service Dog).
It evades me, what he finds so unappealing about getting a dog. This is especially true whenever he actively says he wants a dog! Every time I try to talk about it, he "you don't need a dog! There is plenty of time to own a dog!" So maybe he does not actually understand the role PTSD Service Dogs play and how it's not just "owning a dog that makes you feel good" (though that is a rad ability, but different than a Service Dog).
KwanYingirl
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Well it wouldn't do any harm by contacting trainers that may have dogs in the pipeline. They could advise you of what breeds are best for this work and they always know what's up in the area.
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Update: I think he just doesn't care. Straight up just not even happening. He's at work all day and I was trying to explain how hard I've been struggling and I sent him links to research of PTSD and service dogs and stuff. First off, no response to it, no surprise.
But just now he said he won't be home in time for us to go to the gym and that maybe I should go for a walk. Literally, in the email explaining this morning, I was terrified to go outside (I haven't left the house in days). So I was like "LIke I said this morning, that is really hard for me" then he just said I could do it if I choose to.
I just kinda give up like there is absolutely nothing I can do at this point. I'm all on my own and I give up.
Thank you guys for the amazing responses.
But just now he said he won't be home in time for us to go to the gym and that maybe I should go for a walk. Literally, in the email explaining this morning, I was terrified to go outside (I haven't left the house in days). So I was like "LIke I said this morning, that is really hard for me" then he just said I could do it if I choose to.
I just kinda give up like there is absolutely nothing I can do at this point. I'm all on my own and I give up.
Thank you guys for the amazing responses.
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Update: I don't really know what just happened but I think it is good? (sorry if these updates are annoying or stupid but i feel the need to write it out)
So basically he had been trying to avoid the conversation whenever I brought it up. He got a little loud and scary, but I was like "no man this is my chance to do this" so I spoke calmly. I think a problem is that he doesn't understand what a service dog is, because he said "the dog would have to be alone all day!!" and I explained that the dog would actually be with me all the time. And he is also 100% convinced that our landlord does not have to lift her "no pets ban" when the ADA law states that service dogs do not count as "pets" and must be admitted (which I sent to him), however he said "Fine, follow through with that then. Write an email to the landlord and send it to me so I can send it to her."
He said either way, his divorce from my mother is set to be completed in December (they separated like, six or seven years ago, maybe even eight), where we will have to move back into the house (yes yes I'm terrified but maybe it will be okay) and we can have a dog.
He was once again loud and looked pissed, but he told me he was just frustrated and wanted me to be happy. What was kind of funny was that I told him about my last dog's vet (which is right down the main street, not even a five minute drive away) and how their rates and care are fantastic, but I used the abbreviation and he thought I was talking about a trauma centre. He was going to ask my old therapist for a referral to a vet! That was pretty funny.
Anyway I think this is a good step so I'm going to write that email, sleep, and then edit it. Do you guys think I should attach a copy of the ADA law just in case?
So basically he had been trying to avoid the conversation whenever I brought it up. He got a little loud and scary, but I was like "no man this is my chance to do this" so I spoke calmly. I think a problem is that he doesn't understand what a service dog is, because he said "the dog would have to be alone all day!!" and I explained that the dog would actually be with me all the time. And he is also 100% convinced that our landlord does not have to lift her "no pets ban" when the ADA law states that service dogs do not count as "pets" and must be admitted (which I sent to him), however he said "Fine, follow through with that then. Write an email to the landlord and send it to me so I can send it to her."
He said either way, his divorce from my mother is set to be completed in December (they separated like, six or seven years ago, maybe even eight), where we will have to move back into the house (yes yes I'm terrified but maybe it will be okay) and we can have a dog.
He was once again loud and looked pissed, but he told me he was just frustrated and wanted me to be happy. What was kind of funny was that I told him about my last dog's vet (which is right down the main street, not even a five minute drive away) and how their rates and care are fantastic, but I used the abbreviation and he thought I was talking about a trauma centre. He was going to ask my old therapist for a referral to a vet! That was pretty funny.
Anyway I think this is a good step so I'm going to write that email, sleep, and then edit it. Do you guys think I should attach a copy of the ADA law just in case?
GooSpanish
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gonna take awhile to get a dog.... when you have one lined up i WOULD talk to landlord. Might take the months and maybe you will be back in the house. December is maybe when you could get one. But maybe you could get one faster
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@RussH Thank you so much! I didn't know how forward to be at first, so before you made that suggestion I quoted exact statements and would say "From *this* law in Section 102101 Subsection A." but I totally chilled it down from that. I guess I just wanted every base covered xD Thank you!
@seedling Thank you! Yeah, it does seem tough on him but it seems like he is doing better. He said we can go to the shelter sometime this weekend to see who is there, and we can email the landlord this weekend too. I feel like it shows I'm serious because normally when it gets like that night I confronted him, I cry and back off, but this time I was calmly just trying to explain what he had questions about.
@seedling Thank you! Yeah, it does seem tough on him but it seems like he is doing better. He said we can go to the shelter sometime this weekend to see who is there, and we can email the landlord this weekend too. I feel like it shows I'm serious because normally when it gets like that night I confronted him, I cry and back off, but this time I was calmly just trying to explain what he had questions about.
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So we went to the shelter today to check out what was the haps. There was one pup that really looked good to me, he was such a goober, but in general each dog had a quirk that I really was not sure about (excessive barking and fixation at/with other dogs, etc) but I wanted to bring home each one anyway.
My dad says no dog until it is 100% certain that the university will allow me to live on campus with a service dog. In America, I know that's a given. But since I'm applying to Canada, he doesn't know and I can't find any laws. He also doesn't think I should tell the universities about the service dog until after I've been accepted, just to erase any chance of hidden discrimination. If any Canadians know what's the haps in your land, that would be really great. Until then I messaged a girl who goes to my main choice college on Tumblr and asked her if she knew the policy.
My dad says no dog until it is 100% certain that the university will allow me to live on campus with a service dog. In America, I know that's a given. But since I'm applying to Canada, he doesn't know and I can't find any laws. He also doesn't think I should tell the universities about the service dog until after I've been accepted, just to erase any chance of hidden discrimination. If any Canadians know what's the haps in your land, that would be really great. Until then I messaged a girl who goes to my main choice college on Tumblr and asked her if she knew the policy.
You are making so much progress in a great direction. And your dad seems on board now. A big change from his earlier reactions. He probably knows you would have brought them all home if you could have :joyful:. He's helping you out with the strategy now, way to go for both of you.:)
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