Setting Boundaries

[sunnydaze]

If, I haven't learned much in life, I have started setting boundaries to not involve myself in other peoples problems. I am over-caring by nature but when people don't help themselves and want to cry on my shoulders day after day than it is time for me to back off. I can no longer allow myself to respond by depression and take the chance for having a break down. I was hoping to make a new friend recently and found out things I care not to know. I can see why people say don't offer to much info right away. Get to know the person for awhile. This woman in a matter of 2 weeks told me something that could cause someone else to think about "S" as the woman has threatened recently and most likely will try if she only knew about her daugher-in-law. She tried to wrap herself around my husband at our home and our good nature loving dog bit her. I get lonely without having friends but I would rather stay alone than deal with alot of drama. Just rambling on but have become aware of my new tactics I have been using with not taking other peoples pain on my shoulders and therefore proud of this big step I'm learning to make.
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[sunnydaze]

Another good day of setting boundaries
Yesterday, I let a woman whom I invited over Friday with her 2 children for lunch know how unhappy I was with her. I had told her to call me by Thursday afternoon if she couldn't make it due to ordering and making food. She had her mom tell me at a meeting late Thurday night. Yesterday at church her daughter was coming over to talk with me and she about knocked her out of the way. I am 55 years old and not stupid. She was trying to get to me before I could ask her daughter how she was feeling as I was told she was sick. She said both kids were sick and she wasn't home all Thursday. Now does that seem right, they were sick but not home? I told her she upset both me and my husband who spent his hard working money on shopping and getting food for us. I won't make the mistake of inviting her again as I know she lied. Guess what the sermon was on? Being honest to develop good friendships. At least I told her how I felt. I use to cry in my pillow with people unaware of my being hurt. Not anymore.:clap: