This “man” sounds like a toxic sociopath, don’t ever let your guard down around him. People like that are manipulative predators and will take your kindness for weakness. They will use you for their own personal gain and will throw you away like yesterday’s garbage once you have nothing left to offer them. Their behavioral patterns usually only get worse over time. Maybe you should consider dumping his sorry ass before you get in too deep, you don’t need people like that in your life, you deserve better.