So I Managed To Allow My Husband

[illusionist]

I can understand the fear, but until you both talk, and listen to each other, you won't get anything sorted and that fear will only multiply.

 

[Gs172003]

I can understand the fear, but until you both talk, and listen to each other, you won't get anythin...

Ok

 

[Gs172003]

I asked. It was the physical stuff but he's willing to tone it down

 

[illusionist]

What we have got to sometimes remember is that sex is a connection, both physically and emotionally.....for us it's easy to distance things after ' the act '......but for other people it's not so easy.....they want to keep the flow of connection.......of love.

 

[illusionist]

Glad you have managed to talk. Maybe you can work on a compromise.

I've worked on this.....partner waited on me to go to him....and with time it has become natural to me as I no longer feel pressure.....a hug is just a hug without expectations.

 

[Gs172003]

Glad you have managed to talk. Maybe you can work on a compromise.

I've worked on this.....partner...

I texted him. I was afraid to ask in person. ( sorry)

 

[Hope_N_Highwater]

I texted him. I was afraid to ask in person. ( sorry)

I think texting works really well sometimes when emotions are high or all mixed up. You can be more precise and clear about what you want to communicate, and usually the other person is willing to fully read what has been "said" when emotional intensity is not flying around the room along with the words.

You did great Zoogal.

 

[illusionist]

Hey @ Zoogal....never apologise to me for anything you do.....it's so important that you do what is best for you...you control that.

Texting can be a great way to pathe the way for further talks...If you want them/ need them.....you communicated, so that's a positive.

Take things at your own pace.

 

[Gs172003]

I think texting works really well sometimes when emotions are high or all mixed up. You can be...

Thanks

 

[Gs172003]

Hey @ Zoogal....never apologise to me for anything you do.....it's so important that you do what is...

Ok

 

[leelee]

I've so been there, @Zoogal

Even when one of my school children stands behind me and I...

When you all find that magic potion to make cptsd diappear, I want in.

 

[leelee]

Zoogal, I know how you feel. I cry during. Its hard. I hate that lovey dovey stuff to after. It makes me irriatated. I dont have any advice, just wanted to let you know "me to" and it sucks.